Not sure what you mean by the ‘buoyed’ bit.

Re: making others uncomfortable or angry...

I suppose it’s a matter of boundaries.

We’ve probably all made decisions to please others... but if ’re arranging your life based on trying to make others happy, how’s that working out for us?

Meanwhile, if we’re making decisions to prioritize our own well-being - the only space from which we can truly offer an authentic vibe that’s actually serving everyone, what does that say if people can’t respect that? Probably not the types we’d want to be giving our best to, if they aren’t unwilling to honor the boundaries we set for preserving our own wellbeing.

Of course, if there’s been the habit of sacrificing/compromising ourselves to please, then there’s a pattern there that can seem shocking to abruptly disrupt with the new path - their anger/discomfort coming from having their expectations of the norm rattled. Thus, perhaps necessary for some diplomacy in navigating the shift, given we do have some degree of responsibility for the response given it was our previous patterns which set up the expectations, and a maturity required to program the relationship field with the coding for the new boundary structures.

Or some shit. 😋