I love this. When my sister in law was devastated by her husband leaving her, she had a choice - either forgive him as a friend, or forever be bitter. She loved him - and didnt' want to lose his presence in her life. Ten years on, and he's remarried - and they are still best friends. I always think that's so admirable. Some marriage just don't work - as long as they are good people, why hold a grudge?