Oh yes she was, and is. I didn't mean to put a downer on your post. It's just where my mind went. I do think your tokens are lovely. We do care about our own, don't we, and sometimes physical things are a nice way of showing it. I sent my nephew home with a big tupperward container of leftovers on the weekend - he's just moved out of home to Melbourne and I know how much I would have loved a container of home cooked food when I was that age. Small tokens of big love.