How often do they pay attention to you? I hope that you constantly attract attention. However, if so, you are unlikely to wonder why. In these moments - this is probably the last thing you think about. But when your mind becomes cold, such thoughts most likely reach the brain. But here everything is not so simple. Most likely you think that this is due to your positive aspects. This is not quite true.
In psychology there is such a thing as the Restorff effect. I'll try to briefly convey the essence, without going over complex terms. This effect is also called the isolation effect. Its essence is this: our memory better remembers an object that stands out from others. Standing out. Unique. Have you thought about what makes you so? Not so long ago, I wrote about your unique features. Information about this thing you can find here. However, in that article I wrote about things that are given to you by nature. It was appearance. Now I write mostly about your inner features.
Try to remember people who evoked your sympathy. Remembered? Good. Now ask yourself why they remember you. As a rule, these will be their features, which other people do not have. What are these traits? And here is the most interesting. These features were most likely negative. They are remembered by our memory better. Perhaps it was a voice that was ringier than the rest. Or it was a scar on his hand. No matter how you treat such things, our brains shit. He remembers them by this person, and on the basis of these things you begin to like the other qualities of this person.
Morality? Do not worry if you have a trait that others do not. Perhaps it is a stretch or a birthmark. You are who you are because of all your qualities. You take away one - and it's not you anymore. You will be remembered to people precisely because of your unique features and in your power to bring it to sympathy, because the proverb says: "It’s not the clothes that count, but the things the clothes cover". However, to meet you will be on this "wrapper". Make your wrapper unique.
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