Whether it just happened yesterday or 40 years ago, there are some wounds that remain deep and difficult to heal. However, life goes on and sometimes, you need to start with the healing process if you want your life to become even better, or even happier.
Grudges, anger, hurt, disappointment and other negative things that you have felt in the past shouldn’t be allowed to dwell in your present. Granted that these are important and still a part of molding you into the person that you are right now, you must not let the past to control you and the decisions that you make at present and in the future.
Since everyone is different, it is only understandable for them to have different and unique ways of handling certain situations. However, there is no point to dwelling on the “what ifs” and “could have beens.” What if I did this? It could have been like this if I did that. No matter what answers or questions you make, still, it will never make your present. Mulling the past over and over in your mind will only add to your current problems and worse, these can even bring about even more issues that you have to deal with.
When you get hurt, you can feel devastated and there are even times when your hurt can turn to anger, and anger becomes bitterness and this bitterness ignites the unwillingness to forgive. Living without forgiving can damage your emotional, physical, mental, as well as spiritual health. It is the very reason why you need to get out of your past and forgive the ones that hurt you because this is the only way for you to prevent the other aspects of your life from suffering as well.
And when you say get out of the past and forgive the persons that hurt you, you also need to remember that you also need to learn forgiving yourself at the same time. Everyone has things that they struggle with and no one in this world is perfect and free from flaws. While it is true that you have probably made a mistake in the past, still, you have to learn forgiving yourself for the part that you had in that particular situation. Nursing and holding on to your guilt will never do you any good, and will only restrict you from your chances of enjoying and living your life to the fullest.
All kinds of relationships can end in as quickly as they started, a fact that you have to accept. But even with this, you should always bear in your mind that no matter what happens, the tunnel will always have a light on its end. You can always get out of the past, forget the situation that brought devastation to your life. And for you to do that, you need to have the willingness of doing your past and choose to leave your past behind.
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