One of the things that are inevitable in life is disappointment, and a wise man once told me that "one way not to get disappointed in life is not to expect so much from people." As humans, we tend to forget that every other person out there has their own peculiarities and uniqueness, and we all can't be the same. The earlier we understand that there is a difference between twins that are born on the same day, not to talk of people who came from different backgrounds, ds, the earlier, the better to end every and any form of disappointment in life.
In the understanding of this, as humans, we have different ways of handling disappointments. Some handled it maturely, while some didn't. The scar left in some people's hearts after being disappointed remained unhealed which contributes to who they are today. They tend to lose all hope in people they meet, thinking they will also be disappointed as before, and this creates enmity between people.
Talking about disappointment, I am not excluded. I have been disappointed on different occasions which got to me really bad and which I tried to come out from to maintain my personality and not change who I am because of those who hurt me. I have heard people's experiences of being backstabbed by friends and families. I always thought I was being careful enough not to fall victim to such, but then one can't be careful enough. Having a small circle of friends has always been my style of living; I love prioritizing my privacy over anything, which makes me have fewer friends. In this experience, I came to understand that two things can surely destroy a friendship, and that's money and man, that's if it's female, and woman if it's vice versa.
In my case, it was a man; my then-so-called friend fought with me over a man. And this was a man who wasn't interested in her, to begin with. Although it was a man I got to know through her. I became friends with the man, and we were close, and that is more than she is with the man. To her, she was supposed to be the center of attraction, being that she knew the man before I did, but that wasn't the case, and that got her annoyed. She began to get agitated over trivial issues, giving me attitude over unnecessary matters.
The one she did that was so disappointing to me was the day the man in question came to visit me at my apartment while she was around. We were having a reasonable discussion before the man's arrival and some minutes into the arrival, everything changed. She started giving an attitude and making some irrelevant illustrations, getting angry unnecessarily which seems surprising to me. She started talking back at me like we'd had fights earlier. I was speechless just watching her do all that. I was so disappointed at her behaviour and that caused the rift between us. She told some people close to me that I snatched her man. This was so disheartening as I never expected such behavior from her but then humans are unpredictable. An angel this minute can become one's worst nightmare the next minute. I had nothing with the man in question other than being a friend, and now this man is happily married with a child, but my friendship with my friend is ruined due to her actions.
Through this all, I forgave her and moved on with my life; I always try not to accumulate enemies to myself. I prefer being on good terms with everyone. I apologize when I'm wrong and forgive those who hurt me then move on because I have the belief that I am not limited to my present state alone. I have bigger dreams to pursue than making enemies instead of friends. Presently, I maintain a small circle of just a person I can call my friend among many acquaintances.
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