Iām a minnow on Steemit, and trying to get into the trend of things. After reading these lucrative posts, I often wish I were able to do the same.
I spend hours thinking of how to express thought and my daughter helps me with this thing she calls āFormattingā, and spends a fair amount of time there.
So, reasonably, the envy starts to creep in.
Donāt get me wrong, I am very happy for all the people who are successful on Steemit, but I also always wish I was one of them. We often want what other people have! Silly humans.
Itās been on my mind and seeing others experience the same frustrations, I felt maybe a good idea to write.
What is Envy?
It is a complex emotion.
It is the perception that others have something of value that you donāt have. In that outlook, envy provides us with information about where we stand in life, and how we may improve our circumstances.
It makes us brood over what we lack and resent those who have it.
An ugly emotion, one not many are proud of or care to admit to.
The reality is, weāve all felt that pang at some point.
Simply because we feel bad about ourselves.
With some searching, I found that āEnvyā, can be classified into Benign Envy & Malicious Envy.
Both experiences are painful, but benign envy produces a leveling up motivation; malicious envy produces a leveling down motivation.
Benign Envy can be an example of my feelings; Follow all the rules about Steemit, do not think of the rewards but plod on - like, comment, resteem. Or launch into a mental tirade of ānot fairā, āthousands for a short articleā, āthousands for a photoā, etc. - The latter being Malicious Envy.
āOur envy of others devours us most of allā. Aleksanndr Solztenitsyn
Envy is a directed emotion: The envier directs the emotion, and the envied is target of the emotion.
āEnvy expresses the vindictive and inwardly tormenting frame of mind, the displeasure with what one perceives the prosperity and advantages of others, begrudges them the things and in addition wishes one were able to destroy or to posses them oneself.ā Grimmās German Diet.
āEnvy is rooted in the inevitable comparison between our own situation and that of othersā. Schopenhauer
Comparison to others elicits awareness of our inferiorities be it in terms of wealth, possessions, mental or physical characteristics.
When we compare ourselves to more successful people, we rate ourselves lower.
This can generate envy, if we believe that what we lack in comparison to another abounds to our relative unhappiness.
Envy is the ātendency to perceive with displeasure the good of othersā
Immanuel Kant
Instead of viewing our inadequacies, we can choose a more constructive reaction; emulation and improvement.
Emulation occurs when the recognition of oneās inferiority leads them to view the envied as examples to learn from.
Emulation helps to lift and motivate yourself to become the best.
The mass media relentlessly gives us a supply information - We are able to intimately view the lives of strangers. - People form opinions about people theyāve never met. Many begin to envy, maybe not the person, but lifestyle and earnings.
This DifferentNess makes us victims of Envy.
Emulation can be viewed as the positive reaction to what drives weaker individuals to Envy.
Itās better to react to your inferiority with the desire to improve which is not only good for the self but also society.
Focus on the better.
ā Envy is Concealed Admiration.ā Kierkengaard
Essentially, 'Envy' could possibly serve as a evolutionary "motivator" of sorts if reacted to positively.
Let us celebrate each others successes, big and small!
Use envy to act well and do well, and not be smaller minded and meaner.
In the words of my daughter, @BelleKaur, āDonāt be Saltyā.
I suppose this is a reminder to Self and others:
Become consumed in manifesting your dreams!
We focus too much on our shortcomings and want to pluck the fruit off treeās we did not plant and tend. So believe in your abilities and reap the fruits of your own success.
