When you get a ‘NO’ [WE 194]

Getting rejected in this grand life, which I sometimes refer to as a theatre of bittersweet performance, could be deadly. On the positive side, you get to know why the ‘No’ occurred in the first place and identifying this might give you strength to move forward or better, turn it into a force to reckon with.

Now, I liked how the topic was thrown out to us— “how do you handle rejection’’ instead of ‘’Have you ever been rejected’’— acknowledging the inevitable tapestry of life’s journey where rejection comes as obvious at some points. That's a good approach there.

Like I said, it’s obvious and I don’t recall how many times I’ve been rejected.

Never kept track actually. Also, I don’t remember the events of the distant past where rejection overpowered me with dejection and intolerance. But I sure do know I moved on. And how was that possible? Perhaps, I took them positively or should I say, I don’t have high expectations of anyone— this my friend, helps shape the narrative of our life in good vibes. Expect less and the rejection won’t hurt you as hard as it could otherwise.

But not everyone is the same.

Even I don’t find myself reacting calmly every time I am rejected. I sometimes take it more than negatively, well, mostly. But I don’t dwell on its bad aurora either. It depends on perspective. It depends on mental state. Not we are always ready to tackle the negative energy of someone’s NO before it breaks us from the inside. It takes time to heal. The idea is to hold yourself tight while the negativity lightens and we are back to our glorious selves.

So, how do we do it? Or, how do I do it.

Acknowledgement is way more powerful than anticipated. Like the length of the word itself, acknowledging the feelings instead of hiding it or trying not to give it a damn might save the day.

You aren’t above your emotions, even modern technology is trying to input feelings into robots. So, embrace it with wide arms. Let it flow through your heart and spread it over the limbs, pass it through the veins. It feels good knowing that you have the ability to receive— and being receptive might get you sprained, but it cannot break you. A crucial element of survival in this harsh world.

As I said before, tackling rejection depends on perspective— change your perception. Switch to the other side of the river and try to see what it feels like to be there. Is it obvious or biased. Oftentimes, we find solace in knowing that our rejection is meant to be when we take the time to rethink and reconsider from a different perspective. This should come in handy but be prepared to acknowledge if the other perception doesn’t give you the right vibe. That means, take it positively. This is what I do anyway; sooner or later.

After all, you might not have too many options to recreate the event and see how it goes this time.

And I guess setting up realistic expectations doesn’t require further explanation. It’s most important and triumph over all— if you have doubt in here, perhaps, you won’t ever get rid of the negativity rejection brings with it or in simpler terms, you will be broken from inside while your soul is consumed by the monster to a point of no return.

Last but not least, try to turn it into a story of your life. Like Jennifer Salaiz said: