Many of us, most of the time are very harsh to ourselves. We have a lot more expectations than what we actually do or can do. If a person had a bad day, he curses himself as he felt bad about the day and start thinking of what better he could. If the next day also does go well, he curses more and more.
What is the reason? Why do we curse?
It's because we know we are better, but as we did not perform on that day or had a bad day, we start feeling bad and start cursing ourselves and considers ourselves as miserable.
We want to achieve a lot in our life, but do we love ourselves enough to achieve those things for us. One of the examples can be, we want to leave the habit of eating junk and to be fit. But, we don't follow this and continue keeping this habit. Then one curse oneself about not getting fit. How will that person be fit, if he is not loving himself to achieve things which he wanted to have in the life.
Being egoistic is not loving
There are people who have a very high self-esteem. It's always good to have good high-esteem though, but those few people consider themselves best at everything and are actually good for nothing. So, this is not loving oneself. It is keeping oneself from the truth and living in the dark.
What is the meaning of "loving yourself"?
It's loving yourself spiritually, having a deep care about oneself. To be aware of capabilities and weakness that one possesses. Understanding the life and what one is expecting from the life.
If a person does something good for the community or for oneself, we have respect for that person. So, think about the things you would like to inculcate in yourself so that we start deep caring for us and possesses inner respect and gratitude.
How can this be achieved?
Look forward to the betterment
- Have a vision of what you want to be. keep reminding yourself about the person who inspires you the most or you want to be like.
- Try defining your small goals and always thinking about the next level to achieve
- Aim your behaviour, habits and thoughts as like the person you want to be.
- Treat other people as like you want to get treated.
- Always be the best version of yourself, try to beat your previous best version and grow more. it generates a sense of gratitude within us for ourselves. We start feeling more connected to our heart and soul.
And it makes us love ourselves more!!!!
Small appreciations
- Don't be harsh on yourself. Human makes mistake. Do mistake but do not repeat it. Give yourself credit for small steps, for the passion you pursue, for your love for others, for the small or big things you achieved today or in past. Give credit to for the things you left for you or for the betterment of the family or society.
- Giving small appreciation leads to the power of believing in yourself and power to come back stronger in tough situations.
Notice things
- Notice all the good things you do and other does not. Thanking a person, when nobody did. Giving credit to the team, when all managers do not. Anyone fall in love with this humbleness and if we do this, we love ourselves more.
- Notice all the things that you don't do. Not thanking or tipping a person when all do. It helps in introspecting ourselves and come to conclusion with a bunch of things we should start doing. Once we do these things, we start loving ourselves more.
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