It starts from within
---The speech/story of Pakistan' Iron Lady Muniba Mazari
一切源自内心
---巴基斯坦铁娘子Muniba Mazari的演讲/故事
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They see my disability, I see my ability. They call me disabled, I call myself differently abled. There are some incidents, that happen in your life.
Those incidents break you, deform you, but they mould you into the best version of you. and the same thing happened to me.
他们看到我的缺陷，我看到我的能力。他们说我是残障的，我说我是与众不同的才能。在每个人的生活里总有一些意外发生。那些意外事件打碎你，扭曲你，但是它们也把你最好的版本塑造出来。相同的事情发生在我身上。
I was 18 years old when I got married. My father wanted me to get married, and all I said was,
"if that makes you happy, I'll say yes." and of cource it was never a happy marriage. Just about after 2 years of getting married, I'm in a car accident. Somehow, my husband, fell asleep and the car fell in a ditch. He managed to jump out, saved himself. I'm happy for him, but I stayed inside the car, and I sustained a lot of injuries.
18岁时我结婚了。因为我父亲想让我结婚，我说，“如果结婚能让你称心，我愿意。”。当然，这从来不是一桩幸福的婚姻。结婚仅两年后，我遭遇了一场车祸。应该说，我丈夫睡着了，车子翻进了一个阴沟里。我丈夫想方设法跳出了车，他得救了，我为他高兴。但是我陷在车子里，遍体鳞伤。
The list is a bit long, don't get scared. The wrist was fractured, shoulder bone and collar bone were fractured. my whole rib cage got fractured, and because of the rib cage injury, lungs and liver were badly injured. I couldn't breathe, I lost urinal bowel control, that's why I have to wear the bag wherever I go. 3 vertebrae of my backbone were completely crushed, and I got paralyzed for the rest of my life. I finally ended up in a hospital where I stayed for 2 and a half months, I underwent multiple surgeries.
伤势清单有点儿长，请不要被吓住了。我的手腕骨折了，肩胛骨和锁骨也骨折了，我的整个胸腔都骨折了。因为胸腔的损伤，肺和肝脏都严重受伤了。我不能呼吸，小便失禁，这是为什么无论我到哪里都得带着尿袋的原因。我背部的3节椎骨完全粉碎性骨折,导致终身瘫痪。最后我被送进医院，一直待了2个月半, 经历了多次手术。
One day doctor came to me, and he said:"Well, I heard that you wanted to be an artist, but you ended up being a housewife, I have bad news for you. You won't be able to paint again, because your wrist and your arm are so deformed, you won't be able to hold a pen again." Next day doctor came to me and said, "Your spine injury is so bad, you won't be able to walk again. Because of your spine injury, and the fixation that you have in your back, you won't be able to give birth to a child again." That day I was devastated.
有一天医生过来说，"哦，我听说你想成为一名艺术家，但你却做了一名家庭妇女。我有个坏消息要告诉你，你不可能再去绘画了，因为你的手腕和胳膊都严重变形了，你不能再去握住一枝笔了。"第二天，医生又过来说，"你的脊柱严重受损，你无法再走路了。因为你受伤的脊椎和后背的固定，你将再也不能生小孩了。"那天，我真的悲痛欲绝。
I asked my mother, "why me?" And that is where I started to question my existense, that why am I even alive? And that is, where I realized that words have the power to heal the soul. My mother said to me, "This too shall pass. God has a great plan for you. I don't know what it is, but he surely has." And in all that distress and grief, somehow or the other those words were magical that they kept me going.
我问母亲，“为什么是我? ” 我开始质疑我继续生存的意义，为什么我还活着呢？那时我意识到语言有治愈灵魂的力量。母亲对我说，“这一切都将过去。上帝有一个更伟大的计划为你。我不知道是什么，但是上帝确实有。” 在被痛苦和不幸淹没的日子里，不知怎的，或许是那些有魔力的话语促使我继续前行。
One day I ask my brothers, I know I have a deformed hand, but I'm tired of looking at these white walls, in the hospital and wearing these white scrubs. I'm getting tired of this, I want to add more colors to my life. I want to do something. "Bring me some colors, bring me some small canvas, I want to paint." So the very first painting I made was, on my death bed, where I painted for the very first time. It was not just an art piece or just my passion, it was my therapy. And then I was discharged and I went back home. And I went back home and I realized that I had developed a lot of pressure ulcers on my back and on my hip bone, I was unable to sit. There were a lot of infections in my body, a lot of allergies.
一天我请求我的哥哥弟弟们，我知道我的手是变形的，但是我厌倦了整日看医院里这些雪白的墙壁和戴着白色的消毒手臂。我真的厌倦了这些，我想在我的生命里加更多色彩。我想做一些事。“请给我一些颜料，给我一些小画布，我想绘画。”所以第一次拿起画笔的第一幅画竟然是在我濒临死亡时画的。它不是一副严格意义上的艺术作品或是我的激情所致，它是我的伤痛疗法。后来我被准许出院回家了。回到家里，我意识到我的背部和臀部有许多褥疮，根本无法坐起来。身体也有许多感染和过敏反应。
So doctors wanted me to lie down on the bed straight. For not 6 months, for not 1 year... For 2 years, I was bedridden, confined in that one room. Looking outside the window, listening to the birds chirping and thinking maybe there will be a time when we'll be going out, with the family and enjoying the nature.
所以医生要我卧床休养。不是6个月，不是一年... 整整两年的时间，我躺在床上，禁锢在一间屋子里。望着窗外，听着鸟儿们的啁啾声，心里想着也许有这么一个时刻，我们和家人一起外出欣赏大自然。
That was the time where I realized how lucky people are. That is the time where I realized that the day I'm going to sit, I'm going to share this pain with everyone to make them realize how blessed they are, and they don't even consider themselves lucky. That day I decided, that I'm going to fight my fears. We all have fears, fear of unknown. Fear of losing people, fear of losing health, money. We want to excel in career, we want to become famous, we want to get money, we are scared all the time.
那时我开始意识到人们是多么幸运。那时间也是我感到等我可以坐起来的时候，我要和每一个人分享我的痛，以便让他们意识到他们有着怎样被保佑的人生(的必要性)，而他们却从不认为自己是幸运的。那天，我也决定将与我的恐惧做斗争。我们每个人都有恐惧，恐惧未知的事物，恐惧失去我们爱的人，恐惧失去健康金钱。我们想取得一番成就，我们想出名，我们想赚钱，我们无时无刻都在害怕。
So I wrote down, one by one, all those fears. And I decided that I am going to overcome these fears, one at a time. You know what was my biggest fear, divorce. I was trying to cling unto this person who didn't want me anymore, but I said no... I have to make it work. But the day I decided that this is nothing but my fear. I liberated myself by setting him free. And I made myself emotionally so strong that the day I got the news that he's getting married, I sent him a text -- that I am so happy for you and I wish you all the best. and he knows that I pray for him today.
所以我逐一写下所有的恐惧。我决定我将挨个克服这些恐惧。你知道我最大的恐惧是什么---离婚。我试图依附一个男人 (可这个人已不再想要我了)，但是我说不，我必须离婚。而当我真正离婚时，我发现离婚没什么大不了，真的仅仅是我内心的恐惧罢了。我给他自由也解放了我自己。我让自己在情感上异常坚强，得知他再次结婚的消息时，我送了他一条信息 ---我为你感到幸福，祝你一切安好。现在他知道我是真心为他祈祷。
Number 2 was, I won't be able to be a mother again, and that was quite devastating for me. But then I realized that, there are so many children in the world, all they want is acceptance. So there's no point in crying just go and adopt one, and that's what I did.
第二个恐惧是，我将不能成为一个母亲，这是最致命的。但是后来我意识到，这个世界有许多孩子，他们所需要的就是被接收。所以没必要为之哭泣，去领养一个孩子就好，是的，那正是我所做的。
People think, that they will not be accepted by other people. Because we, in the perfect world are imperfects. So I decided that instead of starting an NGO for disability awareness, which I know will not help anyone. I started to appear more in public, I started to paint, I decided that I'm going to join the National TV of Pakistan as an anchor person and I've been doing a lot of shows for the last 3 years. I became the National Goodwill Ambassador for UN women, Pakistan. and now I speak for the rights of women, children. We talk about inclusion, diversity and gender equality which is a must.
人们认为，残障人士不会被别人接受，因为我们是完美世界里不完美的人。所以我决定不去参加那些有残疾人意识的非政府组织，这对任何人都没有好处。我开始更多地出现在公众场合，我开始绘画，我去巴基斯坦国家电视台担任主讲人。在过去的3年时间里，我已经做了大量的节目。我成为联合国妇女巴基斯坦亲善大使。现在我为女性和孩子的权益代言。我们讨论包容，多样性和两性平等这个必要话题等。
Everytime I go in public I always smile. It's always a big "doodie" smile on my face, and people ask me, "don't you get tired of smiling all the time?" "What's the secret?" I always say one thing that I have stopped worrying about the things that I have lost, the people I've lost. Things and people who are meant to be with me are with me. And sometimes, somebody's absense makes you a better person. Cherish their absense, it's always. It's always a blessing in disguise.
每次我出现在公众场合，总是面带微笑。总是有大大的微笑挂在我的脸上。人们问我：“总是面带笑容吗，难道你不感到厌倦吗？”“你保持微笑的秘诀是什么呢？”我总是回答相同的话--- 我已经停止担忧我失去的物，失去的人。(我知道)注定和我在一起的人和物将会和我在一起。有时候，生命中某些人的缺席会使你变成一个更好的人。珍视他们的缺席，总是，这实则是一种隐形的保佑。
Live your life fully, accept yourself the way you are. Be kind to yourself, be kind to yourself. I repeat, be kind to yourself, and only then you can be kind to others. Life will be hard, there will be turmoils, there will be trials but that will only make you stronger. Love yourself and spread that love. So when you accept yourself the way you are, the world recognizes you. It all starts from within.
为自己而活，接受你自己。对自己好一些，善待自己。我再重申一次，善待自己，只有这样，你才能善待别人。人生不易，会有迷茫，会有只能让你更坚强的考验。爱自己并把爱传播出去。当你接受你自己的时候，世界才能认可你。一切皆源自内心。
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