Because being attractive is Mental, Subjective and activated?
"I do not know what the key to success is, but the key to failure is wanting to please everyone."
3 Points to Be Attractive:
3- The Physical:
2- Projection:
1- The Mentality:
Many people are always interested in being more attractive either for the opposite sex, for a client, for a job or for different social context of interest, and this is where we start looking for the winning formula to get this reaction in others. The point is that many times we think that the attraction is largely affiliated with our physical beauty, how dressed, our body image, drastically limiting the context where this topic is.
Although it is true, our physical part has a place and an importance within this context, although there are other aspects that not all take into account when it comes to wanting to look more attractive. This is where we have to be clear that the attraction is identified by being Mental, Subjective and can also be activated.
It is mental because it is linked to what we think and at the same time associated with a series of events and mental processes that give you the feeling that this person is striking, and this may be sometimes because it has some affinity with what you think , with your interests or your knowledge.
It is subjective because it is not objective because what may be attractive to you may not be attractive to other people and this happens because everyone has tastes, interests and ways of thinking very different from yours.
It is activated because you can get other people to see you as you wish and achieve the degree of attraction with just a little bit of attitude work.
One of the most frequent mistakes that people make in the search for this sensation is when you try to want to please everyone and it is because you leave aside your authenticity to want to please everyone, this is where a famous phrase that says :
From this premise we must be clear about who we want to be attractive, but sometimes we have to be aware that he will not like aspects of us, either because we are not congruent with the interests of that other person or other circumstances, but we will have something quite clear, that for others that are congruent with you, you will be doubly more striking and desired.
Many people are surprised when I mention that one of the lowest levels of attraction is usually the physical, of course initially creates a roll in our attraction since from the first impression of our image is to be It projects what we are in a rather subjective way, but you would be surprised how little this influences a level of long-term attraction to create deeper relationships.
It was if I would make you succeed in the short term, but how many people do you know who are very attractive physically but have horrible relationships and that nobody likes after a while?
If we talk about gender issues and you are a man, you would be surprised that women, beyond being visual, look at other qualities that they believe are of greater importance when looking for more serious relationships.
this is in the intermediate level and is based on what you transmit with your nonverbal language in terms of how you develop in your external or social world. People subconsciously are watching how you interact with others and see if you are a sociable person, with status, shy or you are rejected by your environment, it is from there where this aspect is gaining strength and importance because beyond what It was the physical, this non-verbal language transmits that feeling of security and pleasure in others and give more freedom to want to relate to you.
It is the highest level in terms of being attractive, because although it is something intangible and that one can not see is essential for the other two aspects to develop, because a person who has an inferiority mentality, of insecurity, low confidence and low self-esteem will be reflecting this mentality in the other qualities, in their way of acting, in their non-verbal language, in their needs and also in their physical well, since people with this poor and weak mentality to neglect Physically achieving non-favorable results when attracting others.
We can achieve this through a super important thing called detachment or emotional independence, which tries to feel that I can achieve, that I can achieve and above all do not need the acceptance of others to feel good, simply sees it as something circumstantial because it is completely clear that just some people may not like others, but this will not let them feel bad, but it does not leave their emotional well-being or emotional discomfort in the hands of others and takes responsibility for how they feel themselves.