Frustration is a very interesting topic due to the fact that most people have experienced this feeling, this caused most of the time by the difficulty of achieving what we propose, at the time we want or as we want , it is thus, that a series of intrinsic discomforts in our way of thinking and feeling is generated in this way, commonly identified by despair, exhaustion, melancholy, sadness, among others.
One of the things that we must keep clear to face this kind of feelings, is that frustration is an insecurity that feeds our fear of being incompetent. When we begin to try to reach an objective, a goal or a desire, they also begin to work what are our uncertainties and uncertainties, being in that moment, where our mind begins to assign all kinds of meanings and questions to the failed attempts.
One of the questions that are generated frequently during the decision process of reaching an objective is for example:
What happens if I do not arrive? What happens if I fail? What will people think of me? How will I feel if I do not succeed? I will disappoint this person or my family.
It is at that moment where there is an incongruity with the person you want to be, with the type of thoughts, with your feelings and with the actions you can perform on the objectives and your attempts to achieve what you want.
3 Steps to avoid frustration.
1- Set a specific goal.
One of the problems that people suffer with respect to their goals, is that they tend to be abstract goals, where they only say what they want. For example: I want more money, I want more love, I want to get out of debt, I want to get a better social life, I want to see myself better. But they forget to be specific, to set a tangible goal to know where to start to get those results and reach the big differences.
2- Develop a plan.
Develop a strategy, do not cling to that plan but if you have a strategy where you know the general steps you must take to reach that goal or goal, what kind of help you need to get, what kind of things you may need, what concepts or tools you should to learn, what mentality you should develop, what things you must do to get much easier. Have a plan with strategy because this is what will generate your security and your certainty at the time of facing the difficulties that arise in the way of that goal.
3-Intension, Attention and Zero Tension.
Have the intention of achieving what you have proposed in the short term, focusing attention on the resources, people and things you need. This can be achieved by reprogramming your brain to focus on those elements so essential to the path of your goal.
Tension is one of the most important points, since you should not depend emotionally on the goal, with this I do not want to say that you are not emotional, but that arriving or not arriving is not a factor to make you see that everything was bad. When we do not put tension in what we propose, things start to flow very easily, you can think and see everything more clearly, increasing your effectiveness, efficiency and effectiveness.
Remember:
"When you feel less need of something, it's when you attract the things you need most."
¨The failures are part of the process and each failure is a step to reach success, being an opportunity to improve your strategies and get your winning formula.
