When people ask me: How do I forget someone?
4 Steps to overcome this situation.
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From a situation of rupture in terms of the emotional ties of two individuals, it is normal for us to want to want to forget that person with whom we had that emotional bond at some point in our lives. This happens because having to overcome a loss or a duel, either by a relationship that did not work or by someone who could have hurt us, is usually one of the most difficult experiences for us and for the human mind.
It is in this way that it is of the utmost importance to learn how to recover from this type of circumstance, which on many occasions we have all seen ourselves passing through and causing the paralysis of our mind to respond, instead of continuing to move towards go ahead and continue having experience, we park in the situation of not knowing how to face what we are living.
I always tell them they are asking the wrong question. This is due to 2 reasons that make it difficult for this to really take place, where they are:
A- When we decide to forget someone or to do to one side of our sentimental lives to a person, we constantly repeat the one we want to forget, producing in thinking of him or her by the reinforcement of the neural connections that we have and that are causing that generate this type of memories.
B- It is useless to try to forget, because every time you live something, you have some experience and even when we imagine, these elements are stored and recorded in our chemical memory as a memory of something you experienced. That is why the appropriate word in these situations is the''Up ''.
1-The fact that this event happened that you do not like or that hurts you, does not mean that that person does not love you or loved you at some point. You have to accept that if that happened and the relationship can not continue anymore, there will be millions of opportunities to find a new partner, a new experience and maybe it is in that cycle of opportunities where you find the right person to enjoy that company great part of your life.
2-Always remember that most cases when it comes to situations where our feelings are involved, we do not think with our rational or logical side, but we are carried away by our emotional instincts that determine the answers before the situation. Recognize yourself and try to put aside your emotions and start to decide through your logical side.
3- Change the meaning of that person and experience, this is also called mental alchemy, which is trying to convert something that supposedly does not serve you in something that does serve you well and it is from this way of thinking that you can start overcome whatever.
4- Do not compare what you have lived with what you may be living, this is one of the big mistakes we make, which also does not let us take that next step to overcome that person is no longer with us because we hurt and that limits us to enjoy what we have ahead.