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Imagine breaking the news to you that you aren’t who you have always thought to be; imagine getting to know that you’ve been lied to for more than two decades and you’ve lived with this lie your whole life, waking up one morning to realize you never belonged to your present family. Thinking of this situation alone could feel very disturbing and mentally challenging which would vary from person to person. But let me take it personally and assume it actually happened.
Well, if you ask me, I would say, that if parents had such a child whom they adopted and trained for so many years and they finally happened to become something good in life, I believe there is a better way to break this sad truth to them and it should be diligently done to prevent causing an emotional damage which could send that child into a state of trauma and destabilization. It is important to know how the child would feel and react towards this because so many bonds and interests could be broken off between the adopted child and his adopted parents therefore it shouldn’t be recklessly done, so what if I happen to be in this situation where my assumed biological parents made it out to me about my real parents and how I came about?
Firstly, I would enquire for more detailed information and explanation, of course, because I’m no longer a child at this point, and I would demand every possible explanation I could imagine and, after that, would determine how my new life would embark from this point onward. So, here are strictly my points of view and takes on this situation.
Firstly, considering the kind of person I am and my personality, I’m not sure I’ll still maintain the normal relationship I’ve always had with them and the people around us. This stigmatization suddenly kicks in, creating a glitch in my mind and reminding me that I’m all alone and not associated with where I found myself. Loneliness and depression take over completely and it could be very hard or nearly impossible to realign myself with the family. But one thing is sure, if they have labored so hard to put me where I found myself then they truly love and care for this adopted child. Measure me with that of my siblings, who happen to be their biological children, see the difference, and conclude if we are treated equally or if the other is treated with some form of laxity.
If indeed we are equally treated, which I strongly doubt, then they deserve to enjoy the labor of having a child like me. But if I happen to be the least beneficiate of the family then of course, see, initially, the way you’re being treated in the home should have already echoed something into your mind even before or without being told that you don’t belong to a particular family.
If I happen to be the least amongst them then it is now left for me to decide if I could survive independently on my own but if all of us being the siblings, are treated equally then, it is high time I submit fully under them because you will never find such an acceptable and generous group of people who don’t relate with you but still had the love and oneness to adopt you and carter so much for you and also treat you equally as their child and as a family.
But all being said, whichever way, they will still remain my parents, and I’ll still remain their adopted child as long as we live!
