It's kind of complicated to know the difference between being in love and emotional chaos, because you can love someone so deeply and get lost of yourself, to the extent of loving someone more than yourself which can lead to addiction and when you are hurt, you can't move on so easily when you have invested your mind your soul including emotions, sometimes people go into relationship out of pity or sometimes love at first site. Love need communication, consistency, understanding one another and never to take advantages of your partner because you feel they are already in love in the aspect of choas don't invest what you can't afford loosing because people changes over time nothing is sweeter than the first week and second week of relationship,then you think you found your perfect partner, love is all about choosing each other genuinely and constantly because no one is perfect and never stop loving because no matter how many time you feel hot there's always that special soul out there meant for you.
All you need do is to let go of your past pain.