The conversations about gender equity are becoming more common. Gender equity is not just a women’s issue, it's not feminist but it is a human issue. It is about creating a society where men and women can live and work together in fairness, sharing responsibilities based on capacity not stereotypes. People are beginning to understand that it is not just about giving men and women equal opportunities but also about ensuring fairness in how responsibilities, resources, respect and benefits are shared. Gender equity is about recognizing the differences between men and women and creating a balance that allows both to thrive without one being disadvantaged because of gender.
This topic is important because traditional roles still influence how men and women live their lives. Many people still believe that a man’s primary role is to provide financially for the family while the woman’s role is to take care of the home and children. However, with changes in global awareness, these roles are shifting.
To understand gender equity, we must first differentiate it from gender equality. Gender equality means giving men and women the same opportunities and treatment. Gender equity goes a step further it means giving men and women the resources and support they need based on their individual situations so they can have the same chance to succeed. For example, in the workplace gender equality might mean that both men and women get the same salary for the same job but gender equity would also mean creating policies that allow a nursing mother to have flexible working hours because her situation is different from that of a man.
Sincerely physically a man and a woman are different from each other, God didn't create us the same way, we don't have the same muscles, we see things different, we think differently, our organs aren't the same, that's more of the reason we have to accept eachother uniqueness and respect it.
In a family setting, gender equity means recognizing that both men and women have strengths and weaknesses and sharing responsibilities in a way that benefits everyone. It is not about women taking over men’s roles or men giving up their responsibilities but it is about balance, fairness and respecting each others roles as being unique. I remember the day my Dad tried turning Amala for us when my mum wasn't around, omooo it was a total disaster the lumps in the swallow were uncountable, he even forgot the soup on fire while he was having a business call. I know there are some fathers that can cook very well but women are wired to love cooking and multitask house chores without missing anyone and everything will be perfect.
One of the most sensitive areas where gender equity is needed is in financial responsibilities. In the traditional Nigerian home, the man is often seen as the sole provider while the woman supports in other ways but the reality today is that many families survive because both husband and wife contribute financially. Gender equity in this area means that financial responsibilities are shared in a way that reflects each person’s ability and situation. If a woman earns more than her husband, there should be no shame in her taking on more financial duties. Likewise, if a man is temporarily unemployed, the woman can step in without resentment. This kind of partnership removes unnecessary pressure from men and gives women more recognition for their contributions.
This fairness can also reduce arguments and financial stress in marriage. Many relationships break down because of money problems and unrealistic expectations placed on one partner. When financial duties are shared based on capacity rather than gender the family’s stability is strengthened.
In marriage, gender equity brings mutual respect. When both husband and wife see each other as partners, decisions are made together and no one feels overburdened. This balance is especially important for raising children. When children see both parents sharing duties, they grow up understanding that work whether at home or outside.This helps break the cycle of stereotypes and prepares the next generation for a more equitable society.
Beyond the family, gender equity has a powerful effect on society at large. A community where both men and women can contribute their skills without discrimination is a stronger community. In the workplace, for example, giving women equal access to promotions and leadership positions ensures that the best talents are used regardless of gender. In politics, having both men and women in leadership brings different perspectives that lead to better decision making. Economically, gender equity boosts productivity. When women have the same opportunities for education and career growth, they can earn more, pay taxes and support the economy just like men. Countries that have embraced gender equity often enjoy higher development rates because no talent is wasted.
Of course, achieving gender equity is not just about policies and laws, changing these beliefs starts with education and conversation. Parents can teach their children that respect, hard work and responsibility are not tied to gender. Religious leaders, community heads and the media can also play a role by promoting positive examples of gender equity in action and stop the shenanigans concerning the issues of gender roles in our society. We are created different, we are all special, we are all unique.
