I normally agree with much of what you talk of. However, I believe the opposite is the case when you attribute what is going on with males as "what has patriarchy" done for them. Patriarchy is under siege, and most younger men have been deprived of strong male role models through the assault on fathers, male teachers, etc. the message of man up while women are to be esteemed for whatever choice they make (even destructive ones) is reaping what you see today.

Men are tired of being held accountable for everything, and those men unfortunate enough to find themselves incel due to their looks, or more likely the fact they were never shown how to be a man and thus be attractive to females are asking themselves why they should play this illusion of equality. If you ever want an eye opener, go to Reddit and read subs like:

Where are all the good men (my favorite red pill sub). It is comprised of men who have been burned (some many times) by the matriarchy backed by the courts and law.

Mgtow. An interesting sub that has a mix of those above to the incels you mention here. I have wondered since I discovered their sub years ago what percentage of them (incels) were raised by a single mother who forced/chased the father away. Grew up hearing continuously how women were always right and men were toxic, etc.

All in all, I suspect the real threat to society will not be the subset of incels, but the men who can and do opting out because the juice isn't worth the squeeze. Human beings need human doers the same as the general needs his infantry. Each day the infantry is deserting in higher numbers.

Will be curious to see at what point enough men back away leaving the players and their harems to figure out how to pay for all the children they keep making. I know many like myself are tired of paying for them.

End of rant, and barely got started. You really need to look at this from the other (male) side.