4 Stage Educate Children
0 until 6 years old
At this time, the Messenger of Allah s enjoins us to indulge, love and cherish the child with unlimited love. Give them love without thinking of the firstborn and the bonds by being fair to every child. Should not be beaten if they had made a mistake even on the basis of educating. Thus, the children will be closer to us and feel us as a part of themselves when big, which can be regarded as the best friends and referrals. Children feel safe in their small age because they know you are always on their side every time.
7 until 14 years old
At this stage, we begin to instill the value of DISCIPLINE and RESPONSIBILITY to the children. According to the hadith of Abu Daud, "Command your children to establish prayers when they are seven years old and beat them for leaving the prayer when they are ten years old and distribute the beds between them (male and female). That was not to torture, just to remind them. Do not be hit face because the face is a place of honor. Allah created the face of Adam.
Thus, children will be more responsible for every messenger especially in establishing the prayer. This is the best time for us in programming the personality and morals of children following the Islamic guidance. It's up to your mom whether you want to make them a Muslim, a Jew, a Christian or magi.
15 until 21 years old.
This is a rebellious adolescent phase. At this stage, his mother approached the children by CLANKING with them. Lots of talking and talking to them about the case they're dealing with. For teenage girls, talk to them about their 'menstruation' and their feelings. Be a loyal listener to them. If not agree with any of their actions, avoid rebuking or scolding them especially in front of their other brothers but use diplomacy approach even though we are their parents. Thus, no third person or 'foreigner' will be present in their life as a place of reference and listeners to their problems. They will not be affected to get out of the house to seek out other pleasures because it keeps all the happiness and fun already at home with the family.
21 years and over
This phase is the time of your father's father to give full TRUST to the children by giving FREEDOM in making their own decisions. You only need to monitor, counsel with prayer so that every action they take is correct. Starting from the wanderings of their lives right outside the home. InshaAllah with all discipline is honed since the 2nd stage before this enough to become a fortress themselves for them. You should not be tired to advise them because the sentence of advice that is spoken as much as 200 times or more against the children is able to shape my good behavior as your father wants.
Spend Your Love by Playing Together With Them
No human being is born without a starting point. Indeed the most important phase in the growth of every child is in the first phase following the training of the Prophet S.A.W as mentioned above. This stage is considered most important because when this is the principle of foundation in the spirituality of healthy children are formed.
Including behaviors, children who are given sufficient attention and affection will enlarge with full confidence and more easily hear the word. In contrast, for children who are poorly cared for, they are easily rebelled by doing banned matters even though repeatedly reprimanded. They believe that's the best way to get your attention again.
