Your ego will never be able to be hurt :D
Curangel never downvoted your son. Your wife receives downvotes for the same reason you did - self and circle voting. It has nothing to do with you.

Your voting has actually improved, so I asked the delegators to stop adding your posts and to focus on worse cases. Maybe you can help your whole group improving too. You could use steemschools to educate people what curation means, and maybe understand it yourself even better in the process. We're always happy to move on!