Sorry you've had this experience. The way that @Hivewatchers-Helper in the Hivewatchers discord talked to you wasn't great. It's not an easy task to try and curb abuse on Hive and I'm sure it takes its mental toll. The way crossposts work between communities now is still a bit new and people are still settling in to learning and developing standards.

I used to be more involved with anti-abuse on Steem, and only recently joined the Hivewatchers discord. I've tried to provide some feedback for them and advocated for a couple people it seemed needed an advocate there. The attitude I've seen there recently is scuttling the value of the anti-abuse services, and I'm doing what I can to point it out.