Trust is very hard to earn and easy to lose in this world. It's very easy to trust someone you have known for a long time especially when the person hasn't given any reason to doubt him or her. Building relationships is one of the keys to our success in life, Friendships, and even romantic relationships. We treat them the way we want to be treated but sometimes it's just one-sided. They might not just like you or envy you but they will keep the pretence.
We are all humans and therefore we can get hurt by each other but the height of hurting someone is betrayal and stabbing someone in the back. If you don't like the relationship you have with the person, just leave quietly. Some people because of being hurt by someone they trust, affect their ability to trust again. If one has been hurt a few times, it can affect the way they perceive humanity.
I have been betrayed by a friend I trusted so much we grew up together and did everything together. She gave me no reason to doubt her so I trusted her with everything in my life. As of 2019, I was having relationship issues with my boyfriend, and he broke up with me. So, I decided to let my friend in on what was happening and pleaded with her to help me talk with him on my behalf.
Because I trusted her so much, I believed she was helping me not knowing that she was telling him so many lie about me and my boyfriend didn't want to hear anything about reconciliation between us anymore.
I told her that I was not sure if her conversation with him was helping matters she was like everything was going well. I still trusted and believed her.
Not knowing that during this period I was still asking for reconciliation, they had already started dating and blocked me from viewing their statutes on WhatsApp where they were uploading pictures and displaying love.
Someone who knew us called me if I saw their statuses and I was like I didn't see any status. The person came to my house to show me pictures that was when I got the shock of my life. From helping me intervene with issues am having with my boyfriend to dating him. I was hurt and I cried so much.
A year later they broke up and came asking me for forgiveness. I forgave them but I can't trust such people again.
This situation that happened in my life turned me into a cautious and skeptical person. I have become guarded and more self-conscious about people around me both in the workplace, in friendships, and even in romantic relationships.
One of the greatest gifts a human can give to another is trust. There's nothing like when someone trusts you and can confide in you knowing that you won't hurt or betray him or her. There are still good people out there that we can trust we just need to use our ability to discern thoroughly.
