I have thought about this pretty often. And most times, putting myself in the situation and there is just one thing i considered. Arranged marriages are not uncommon in the world and in my country its predominantly seen in the North amongst the Hausa tribe and sparsely seen in some other tribes.
The emotional state of the two parties involved. A man and woman can be coaxed into marriage and have negative feelings towards each other. Now as this is definitely true, as a result two individuals will be forced to live together as strangers under one roof and at some point will have to live up to the expectations of the marriage. This is often having a child. This child will in most cases not be loved. The emotional trauma awaiting a child brought into a family without love is devastating.
If not for anything, the unborn child shoukd be considered. The world is hard enough. Bringing a child to face the harshness of this world right from the family first creates the monsters in people we see today.
On the other hand, there have definitely been successful arranged marriages. In India, arranged marriages are the order of the day and it seems to work out for the most part of it. I tend to wonder how they got along because i know it takes a life time to know a person and yet you still dont know everything. People are insatiable and prone to change, both negative and positive. So how do you live with someone you barely know anything about.
I feel a high degree of tolerance is involved and if it is, how does one settle for less than what they need. Being thrown into a marriage that is set up by family and in such a tradition where you cannot leave or stand the risk of family turning their backs on you.
I think my thoughts on this matter is very clear. Arranged marriages are a bad idea. I feel everyone has the right to find and fall in love with someone they consider to be the significant other and not thrust into ths arms of a complete stranger.
