For me, I think everyone knows that dressing indecently is not a thing of religion or official work ethics. I also think everyone also knows that many cultures do not allow indecent dressing.
When we see the climatic and topographical factors it does not also permit indecent dressing. It also tells me that the earth is not for the weak.
In fact, some metals need to be galvanised to prevent corrosion. How much more we humans?
The hot desert, in fact, requires us to wear thin clothes that cover our faces against sand blasts. Thin white clothes prevent me from extreme heat.
In my vicinity, the elderly people kick against dressing inappropriately because it draws the opposite gender towards one another. I know that some have ulterior motives and those that do not have can generate one.
If one's heart is not deceptive, why would one dress indecently? My dad would say, as a man thinks in his heart, so is he.
All these things flow out of the heart.
So, if I see you dress indecently, I feel you have an ulterior motive.
But let me broaden the horizon and try to deviate from the victim because this week, a question has sparked many debates: Does the way a person dresses influence how others behave toward them, or does harmful behaviour come from the mindset and intentions of the person committing the act?
Hmm! One should not commit hideous offences all in the name that someone dresses inappropriately.
In the name of fashion, some can go to the extreme. To me, one cannot just say yes or no. But it signals more of yes morally. Dressing signals to us who you are and who gets attracted to you. Like the saying, birds of a feather flock together.
If your dress lures me negatively, I look away. And sometimes, I might have to close my eyes.
The real issue is often the mindset, choices, values, and intentions of the perpetrator.
This is why I will be telling parents, guardians, and teachers to continually emphasise dressing modestly.
Indecent dressing may be as a result of children's upbringing. It may be as a result of him or her trying to model or be like a popular musician.
I have in fact heard of a Nigerian musician who prevents her son from listening to her own music. This same music that she feeds to the heart of the general public.
This tells signals to us a lot. How much more dressing, my people! How much more??
We should therefore ask ourselves:
Is our dressing teaching people how to respect boundaries, or is it teaching potential victims how to avoid being victimised?
Prevention requires both. But accountability must remain with the person who chooses to cause harm.
Thanks, Phamzy speaks!!!!!
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