Yes the question is are these things healthy. Do they make life difficult for the sufferer or those around him/her.

Now that I am learning homeopathy, I disagree that we choose how we feel. Much of our mental state can be pathological, and is treatable. Feeling alienated is one of them. This stuff works much much better than therapy. We can even treat the urge to mutilate the body in order to feel more comfortable in it, a practice that is very much in vogue these days. #1 is most definitely not healthy or normal if you ask me.