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We are a family of five which comprises of my Father, mother and my other two brothers. All the children in the house are boys and you all know what that means. Having only male children isn't a crime and that doesn't mean the family goal cannot be achieved but at the same time there is this great value that the female children add to the family of which their absence will definitely be noticed at home.
The female child helps and play a lot of roles at home just like the mother of the house. I learnt to wash plates and to cook very well because there wasn't a female child at home to cover up the space. Mum didn't take it likely with us and made sure every duty is done at home regardless of which gender is supposed to do the chores. I remember very well how she will count the numbers of maggi we are using for rice and the quantity of salt with instructions how to cook before she leaves for work.
One funny thing about her is whenever she noticed any foul-play in the cooking, she will not eat the food but ensure that we consume everything we've prepared before cooking the general meal for the family. As the second born of the family, I really wished I had a sister whom I can protect just like how other boys protect their siblings out there specially against boys that won't let the girl child rest. I have seen scenarios were the male children act like kings over their sisters not to bully them but to make sure they are safe from anything that is detrimental to their healthy lifestyle. I wished my story comes like that also.
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Lacking the female child at home is an experience we've wanted to change so we can feel what it means to have one at home but along the way we accepted our fate and train ourselves at home to be the girls and the boys at home. It is as a result of that, I am not afraid to go into the kitchen and prepare something for people to eat or my own self as the case maybe. I have prepared dishes that allot of my male friends wouldn't be able to do so because they aren't the ones doing that at home since they have female siblings.
I had never wish to have more brothers but a sister because we the boys are in a good number already and wouldn't want the house to be overcrowded with boys. I have always wanted to have that feeling of having a female sibling at home but at last we waved goodbye to that feeling because it's never going to be possible again.
We are left at home the three surviving boys and by the help of mummy's training on us, we've learnt how to take care of ourselves. I learnt how to cook at early age and that has helped me very well. I can perform allot of chores that the female child at home use to do and that has balanced up the equation for me that even if I marry a woman that cannot cook I will not have problem with that but will only have problem if she refused to learn..lol
I am glad with the situation I find myself since I cannot change any of it I let it lie low. I am not depressed that I cannot have a blood brother or sister again neither will I have biological parents again but I am happy how life has shaped and groomed me to be. At least I know what it means not to have and also how to help those that don't. I have also learnt to be independent of people and to focus on achieving my goals of life. I am happy I am me and I hope you are happy for me too!
Thank you for reading through my post.
