Diseño Original en App movil PhotoroomDear friends of the@holos-lotus community, it pleases me so much when I find an initiative of yours, I feel that it is a kind of therapy for my heart. On this occasion I can see that the initiative is quite liberating because it calls us to talk about those things that have made us hit rock bottom in our lives, sometimes from pain, sometimes from anger or from an emptiness that is usually immediately associated with the negative. But just as one can drown at the bottom of a lake, it is also true that when you hit bottom you can also push yourself to the surface and breathe. Critical moments in life can be tremendously transformative if one is attentive.
When I hit rock bottom
Do you remember when the movie "Forrest Gump" was discussed in the cinema forum? I participated in that initiative and one of the things that almost all the users mentioned in their posts about that movie was the famous phrase :
"Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're going to get" .
And well, the truth is that throughout my life I have found that when you are alive, all kinds of good and bad things can happen. And unfortunately, we cannot control many of the external events that we experience. And one of the most critical moments in my life was when my mother was diagnosed with (large B-cell non-Hodkings lymphoma) a type of cancer in the immune system. Before that diagnosis, our family life was simple, happiness is often disguised as everyday life, that is why we do not perceive it, I was working at the hospital level, I was practically independent at the professional level, we all led a quiet life like any other family, celebrating our birthdays, watching movies, having dinner together etc... and then suddenly life changed.
Suddenly life became a race against time. Tests, biopsies, hospitalizations, blood tests, chemotherapies, radiotherapies and so on in the rush to save mom's life. One day her body, the same one on which I fed my first years, could not take it anymore. And so my mother left this sensory experience that we call LIFE.
A period of depression and uneasiness
Naturally, the loss of a mother is one of the most devastating experiences one can feel. There are always things you think you could have done better, some guilt, sometimes we punish ourselves thinking that we could have intervened in the course of things and it is not so. Life is like that, from the cradle to the grave is a school and you have to learn in that short course. I got very depressed, I had horrible nightmares, I felt guilty all the time, but there was a moment when I hit bottom and I understood something liberating. My mother, in all that long process before she left this world, taught me a couple of lessons, which I could only understand after she was no longer with me.
What did I learn from this terrible experience?
Pain, although it may seem paradoxical, is a teacher. If we are attentive to our life, we will know that most of the things that have happened to us are our school, and it is precisely the most difficult moments that make us better people if we manage to learn from them. My mother taught me in those difficult moments of her life that you can always have a smile in the most critical moments. I learned that the people we love do not last forever and that we have to tell them out loud how much we love them and how important they are in our lives. I learned that work is not everything, that we also need time to live moments, because it is the beautiful moments and experiences that we will keep in our memory and it is something that no one can take away from us. Of course, it is necessary to seek psychological help when we cannot overcome those traumatic events by ourselves. Life goes on with or without us, let's love, let's avoid anger, let's try to keep our center, let's meditate, let's share more with nature and let's be attentive to the life around us.
Diseño original@david.rivero y a
@mostrorobot a participar en esta iniciativa
Thank you very much for providing this space to express ideas and content that helps us to grow and find ourselves. The images used in this publication are copyright free and extracted from the portal www.istockphoto.com, the text was translated at www.deepl.com and the cover of the publication as well as the banner at the end are edited with the mobile application photoroom using copyright free images.I invite my friends @david.rivero and
@mostrorobot to participate in this initiative.