All my life I have been living in fear, I allow fear to take control of me, never a day have I think of what to do in taking a new step in another aspect of my life and see what it could be, I was covered in darkness and this always posing a great fear on me, I used to believe things like, taking a new course of action will be a waste of time.
Yet Never did I know that making change in your life is necessary, and that it will bring you good fortune, happiness and joy into your life.
As times goes on I began to see that not being able to ascertain on another aspect of life is more like a disease and now I have realize it and I am making all best to be myself.
Immediately after my school in university, things were not easy for me and my family as they where all looking up to me, I was going from places to places, finding job and what to do without taking a prior moment to outline what I am so good at and things which I may like to do.
I allow the condition in the family to get the best of me, instead of taking my time In drawing out a blue print that will better benefits me and the family at last or what is best for me which I can do very well.
I was employed into a job which I have no knowledge of and as times goes on, my morale in the job was decreasing instead of increasing, they was problems in the job which lead me to tender my resignation.
Having friends is good, no doubt. But having friends whom you can not trust is a problem. I did not knew that for someone to be called your friend you and him have to more alike in many aspect of life, which includes attitude, mode of speaking, daily activities infact in area of life.
They was this time, that my friend whom I trust so much betray me, this was how how it goes, on the 15 may 2020, I trust my friend Samuel and sign an acknowledgement letter for him in Esusu (traditional money sellers or loan) for the loan to be giving to him. Then, you know what happens Samuel has to refuse paying the money therefore the capital and the interest I paid it instead for peace to reign.
Being educated is good no doubt but being educated and coming out with low grade is bad, speaking of academic I used to imagine that I Know everything that I need nobody to lecture me too much, I was so full of myself up to some point that I don't usually attain class, I do and go around as I like therefore, I came out with a low grade and this has pose a tremendous negative impact on me, this is how it all goes, I saw this advert on Television about a graduate trainee job, After passing through a lot of proceses now it was time for the oral interview and when it was my turn I was told ' I am sorry for your time in the recruitment process but I can see here that your CGPA is below what we are looking for.
And this was it I shed tears. " saying to myself, had I known".
Being in relationship is good and it posses a great feelings to oneself but being in a relationship with someone who does not value you is worst than death.
I have been in many relationship with ladies but all will lead to break up due to the fact that I am egoistic in nature. What I did not know about women's is that, they need more of your time more than anything else. When a grown-up lady is in love with you, your time to her becomes so precious and valuable more than anything to her, but this I did not know.
Also, when a lady is in relationship with you, she will always be happy when she is doing the talking, like when is the one talking most, as a man you have to be a good listener to her and what she is saying, then this, I did not know.
Ladies also like it when you treat them like angels from heaven, in terms of calling them sweet names and giving them surprising gifts, this will make love and affection develop as good as ever.
Therefore, never a day did I used to play and gist in my past relationships, never a day did I used to surprised my women with gifts, never a day did I used to allow my women to do the talking while I listened and become a good listener, never a day did i give more of my time to any women in my past relationships rather I used to believe that I am the boss, I was so egoistic in nature.
Listening and paying attention to people's is of Paramount in ones life.
For the past years, never a day that I paid attention to people's opinions about myself. I tend to do as I like, behave as I like and do anything which only me believe his best, but all this was wrong of me because no man is an island, we rise by lifting others and one man can not make a forest, due to the fact that I operate on my own, do on my own, I always get NO or little outcome at last.
The moment I took time to think what others said was when I became to realize that people need people in daily activities.
As we all knew having hobby is very important in our life, no man should stay or dwell without developing interest for one or two things that will make him/her Happy when performing it. But when it comes to my case It seems that i easily developed interests for everything and this lead me to have many hobbies some which I can not write home about, the funniest part is that I always beat my chest whenever I came across a something new and I will want to do it without giving a second thought if this is what I like and will want to do it as times goes on.
