When choosing a life partner, one needs to be it a greatbdeal of thoughts and a lot of cfacyits must be considered before going into a relationship.bMarriage they say, is a union between a man and a woman to become a husband and a wife. When choosing someone's life partner, a great consideration should be given to whoever one wishes to choose. If a lady wishes to marry, there are some qualities she should see in a man before agreeing to a relationship which may eventually lead to a marriage between the two of them. But the big question is how can a spinster find a good husband?
Though, some people think that money solves every problem; this is one of the mistakes some ladies make when choosing their life partner. Money is very important on every person's life but money should not be the main reason why a person should go into a relationship. A man can be very abundantly rich but if he doesn't know how to treat a wife, that'll really affect their living together. And if a man is poor and he knows how to take care of his woman, they will live a happy life, a problem-free and they will always enjoy themselves. They'll grow up to bringing up good children.
A spinster will be looking for a husband should not be belligerent in the ways she relates with people, she should be opened to all; she shouldn't discriminate against anyone no matter how small, rude, and unreasonable the person is.
Moreover, if she later finds a guy she loves, she should find out about the family the guy comes from. A house that a person comes from determines 95% of his behaviour. If it is found that he is from a bad environment, she should look for someone that is better; someone from an amenable and a reputable family background. A guy that grows around people who cares about each other will want to inculcate such habit when he finally gets married to the love of his life.
Marriage is not something that one should rush into, one needs to be extra careful of whom he or she is getting married to. A spinster that wants to get married should be patient enough, she shouldn't jump in to any guy she thinks is ready for a relationship; some guys are only interested in a one night stand, they are not ready for a relationship talkless of getting married.
More so, clubs places are not the best places to find a responsible husband; people go to clubs to have fun, dance and enjoy themselves. People that are found at club houses are most of the times people who are looking for sex mates and not soul mates.
An African adage says " the way you dress is the way you will be addressed ". A spinster that is ready for a serious relationship that will lead her to marriage should make sure she dresses with sense. If a lady wears dressings that show the curve of her body, transparent clothings and clothes that show the most sensitive parts of her body, she will be approached by only the people that only use her body and later dump her her after getting what they want from her. Comparatively, if a woman dresses responsibly, she will be approached by the serious minded guys who are ready to get married. Every guy dreams of having a woman who be a role model to her children; a woman that dresses responsibly will train her wards to do the same when they grow up but if she is the I don't care type, she will have nothing but the I don't care children; no man will want to marry someone they think is not socially responsible. So, a woman looking for a good husband should learn how to dress responsibly.
Before a woman agrees to marry any man, she should make sure she knows at least 85% of his behaviours. One of the mistakes that couples of nowadays make is that they don't really know much about themselves. Take for example a bachelor and a spinster that meet in January and after three months, they agree to marry each other; they can never be able to cope with each other because they meet not quite too long and there may he some behaviours of the spouse that he doesn't show and same with the wife; a behaviour that may threatens their living together as a
couple. But if a woman and a man agree to marry each other after a long years of friendship, they are supposed to have known so much about themselves. There will be trust in their relationship and they will know the favourites of themselves, the likes and the hates of the two will not be a problem to themselves. If anyone of them makes a mistake, there will be able to forgive their faults but if they don't know each other very well, the relationship will just be like a house that was built of a poor foundation.
Furthermore, religious places e g Churches and mosques are examples of the best places to find a God-fearing man or woman as the case maybe. Many a people that go to worship centres regularly can make good husbands and God-loving wives as the case may be because they are more closer to God and they will not want to do something that will ruin their relationship with the Almighty.
More so, online platforms are not the best places to find a good husband; most guys online are only into hook-ups and nothing more. But how will someone fall in love a person she doesn't know who he is personally? who are his parents? What type of friend does he keep And what kind of things does he do? How sure is she that Shi is chatting with the real account owner? Scammers are now on the increase on the social media, a lady should be very careful of who she chats with online and such friendships should never lead to marriage if they want to live a happy married life.
Lastly, an African adage says " show me your friends and I'll tell you who you are''. Before a lady goes in to any relationship with a guy, there should be a cross check on the types of friends he keeps, who they are and are they responsible personalities? But if they don't have mesmerising and behaviours that are worthy of emulations, it's either she tells her lover to change his friends or she quits the relationship before they go too far in their relationship.
In conclusion, A good husband is someone who has the best of characters among his fellow men. He is someone who loves his wife more than any other woman and he will always be ready to make her happy and makes sure she feels the joy and happiness that is wanted in a marriage. Choosing one's life partner is one of the hardest and most mportant decisions that someone needs to be extra careful with before deciding who will be who. Many homes have become broken because of the wrong choice of partners; some women have become single mothers because they were not careful enough when they choosing their supposedly life partners while some people have lost almost everything they have as properties due to mistakes in choosing their supposedly love. Also, a wrong choice of partner has lead some marriages into divorces. Guys and women who are not married yet are supposed to learn from what really have transpired between a married couple and try to avoid such mistakes. Marriage is a wonderful experience if and only if one has a right life-partner as husband and a better lady as wife.
