The most important thing a person could bring to a relationship was a life. "A REAL LIFE! When you invest all your energy and self esteem in getting a date or having a relationship, you dont have a life.
People with lives do not make " getting married" their ultimate goal. People with lives do not always have to be in a relationship or on a date to feel good about themselves.
Here's some sobering news: if you dont have a life of your own, you wont be happy even if you date, fall in love, and get married.