Every day I give myself reasons not to succumb to the “Men are scum” narrative. The truth is it gets increasingly difficult to actually maintain this stance because of the stories I read (social media, books, etc), personal experiences, things I have seen with my ‘koro koro’ eyes(naked eyes), and what some of my friends have had to deal with.
There’s this teeny tiny part of me that keeps my thought process in check. So every time I say ‘men are scum’, there’s a gentle reminder that says ‘Not all men are scum’.
Personally, I believe it is rather unfair to generalize gender regardless of the number of bad experiences the majority of women have had.
You. Yes you, the one planning to leave me a comment about how women are scum too. Let me put it to you that no gender is void of ‘scum’. Women can be deceitful, too. Additionally, just as there are really good men out there, there are really wonderful women as well.
There’s good and bad everywhere but what exactly is the thing with men and cheating? I will never understand the reason for 'wanting to have a taste of every available flavor’.
I was going through this page on Instagram where people come to air their grievances, ask for advice, and all of that. I came across a couple of stories that reinforced my belief that there is no limit to the wickedness of humans.
I’m left questioning myself and wondering what really is going on.
Maybe it’s just the stories I have fed my mind with, maybe it’s just a phase. Right now, I don’t even know what it means to trust the other gender(even the bible says to trust no one but Him so yassss girl!).
I find myself second-guessing, scrutinizing, and analyzing whatever I am told. It wasn’t always like this. How did this happen?
A while back, I met this lady who believes marriage will never be for her because of the rate of promiscuity (pala pala) the other gender (married and single) displays before her.
Hopefully, someone walks into her life someday and changes that narrative. She had boyfriends in the past who were nothing to write home about and that constantly reiterated to her that her belief in marriage is all that there is.
Truth is, I really do not blame people with insecurity issues in their relationships because I understand better now.
There are good, intentional, sweet, super-intelligent, kindhearted men, and vice versa. I wish for all the good ladies and men (emphasis on good) to meet equally as good partners.
I hope your path gets redirected divinely just so you get it right. I hope your broken heart gets mended. I hope you heal so much that when someone genuinely says I LOVE YOU, you’re able to BELIEVE them and ACCEPT them because you deserve everything good.
So, I’m starting a series titled THE SCUM EXPERIENCE where I'll be sharing different experiences of ladies I know. I know that both genders have had their own fair share of scum experiences but I’ll be focusing on females for now. Maybe in the future, we can share stories of men too.
Thank you for reading!😁
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