What's Insecurity they say, I Don't have insecurities, they also say, Fact check everybody and I mean, everyone from the little 10 year old kid, to aspiring teenager, to the youth chasing his dreams, and the married Couples to the Grey-haired Old man, to the Richest man in the world (Elon musk), to the most powerful person in the world, which is President Joe Biden. Everyone has insecurity, might not be as much as others, might just be a Little, everyone feels a little unsure at times. As Humans we constantly think, and some of our thoughts can be filled with Doubt, which can lead to Insecurity. Now being a little bit insecure is actually good, because it brings reality to your forefront, it helps to keep reality about Goals, relationships and life in check. Being Too insecure can lead to problems in one's everyday life. There are Certainly ways one can work through insecure thoughts.
Insecurity is a feeling of not being enough and Uncertainty filled with Doubt. One of the most noticeable characteristics of Insecurity is Anxiety. It tells you about your goals, relationship and ability to handle certain light situations. Everyone deals with Insecurity from time to time. It could be generated from a variety of causes, from a traumatic event, social conditioning or the very environment one grew up in .
It can be caused by General instability.
Insecurities can be said to be a trait, built of one's personality and definition of the environs one finds Himself/Herself.
Low self-esteem.
Harsh Criticism from people like our parents, guardian, mentor, lover, siblings or teacher.
Manipulative Relationship and Friendships.
Not Achieving the goals you set out to achieve.
Medical circumstances or conditions that limits you in a way.
Comparison.
Life setbacks.
TYPES OF INSECURITY
Speaking literally, Insecurities vary and there are almost limitless areas of potential Insecurities, however there are some that tend to appear frequently.
One of the most common kinds of Insecurity. It can also be said as attachment Insecurity. This can be said as being unsure and not confident about your relationship. It's a Deep belief that you aren't just good enough for your partner. A feeling of Inadequacy, lack of trust and a Trace of Doubt. It can also arise based on the past relationships or experiences one has encountered or gone through with someone closer to Them.
This occurs when one is anxious over the continuation of his employment or about the continuation of certain benefits attached to your employment. It can also be triggered by the economy, industry trends and workplace conflict, promotions and the danger that comes along with the company restructuring or the company failure.
BODY INSECURITY
This is really common, among the younger ones of this generation Many people feel insecure about the way they look and question whether they measure up to certain imposed deals. This cuts across all types of body, and isn't restricted to only a particular type of body.
SOCIAL INSECURITY
This is another common type of Insecurity that stems from the way our peers and world sees us and how we interact with them. This Insecurity can be a recurring low level problem or can grow into a full blown social anxiety disorder or social phobia.
This is being insecure because you Don't know what tomorrow holds for you. And you worry about it. Or a kid doubting about his future, doubting if he would ever achieve his dreams and goals.
SIGNS OF INSECURITY
Anxiety
Depression
Low self-esteem
Constant Seeking of reassurance
Perfectionism
Jealousy
Comparison
Overly critical
Trust issues
Criticism of others
Not being able to say no
Isolation/Self detachment
Fear of Failure
Pleasing others
Inadequacy
Inferiority complex.
There are still more signs about Insecurity but these are the most common ones.
WAYS TO DEAL WITH INSECURITY
FACE OR CONFRONT YOUR FEELINGS : rather than sit back and watch it take over you, instigating negative thoughts into your head, look for ways to unpack your feelings and there ways to which you can do this.
Write how you feel in a journal
Draw how you feel
Visit a therapist
Scream into a pillow
Let yourself cry.
I actually practice the last one anytime I'm feeling a little over insecure.
Set goals you know you would be able to achieve, not ridiculous ones and there are ways to achieve goals. You can break the goals you want to achieve into small goals that you achieve day by day, weekly and monthly. This would help you to achieve your goals easily. Also try to keep track records of the goals you've achieved and always remember to commend yourself for the little goals you've achieved.
PREPARE YOURSELF FOR SETBACKS
One thing is certain in life: setbacks, failures all are ways by which we know we are moving in the right direction to achieving goals or living rightly.
We shouldn't allow these situations to define us. Instead of feeling bad, and all insecure about them, we should see the good it brought about for us, the lesson we learnt from that setback and how to avoid something like that again.
Everyone has their strength and weaknesses, and not everyone is good at everything, that doesn't make them any less worthy of love and respect.
Speak positive and reaffirm to yourself and your skills. And acknowledge that you Don't have to mount pressure in yourself to be good at everything, polish the ones you aren't good at yet.
Definitely negative thoughts would come, we are humans and this is a natural occurrence but how we respond to the thoughts in our heads is what matters, we shouldn't just assume the thoughts are right. Instead we should carefully scrutinize the thoughts and play them out in our minds, before conclusion.
The other ways to deal with Insecurity are,
Stop comparison.
Surround yourself with people who encourage you.
Practice Trusting.
Let go of people and situations that fuel your insecurities.
