There are certain stories you’ll hear and you can’t help but wonder why the people involved, do the things they do. So, there was this story I was told, about a particular couple. The lady had cheated on the man countless times, and everytime he found out, he’d beg her not to do that to him again. She’d cheated so many times and everytime he found out, unlike every other human with pride, he’d be the one to beg her for the sake of their relationship. It sounded so absurd, but it just proves how helpless some individuals can be, where romantic relationships are concerned.
Being in a relationship with someone, means you’re open to their flaws, you’re willing to accept them the way they are, and still love them for it. However, there are deal breakers when it come to romantic relationships, and it varies from individual to individual. In my opinion, there’s nothing like unconditional love when it comes to romantic relationships.
The guy in that story i told above, might hate the fact that his girlfriend cheats, but there’s something about her, that makes him willing to overlook every other flaw, even if it requires him stooping so low for the sake of their relationship. It might be her beauty, it might be that he’s still holding onto the idea of the person he once loved,. Whatever it is, it is worth sacrificing his pride.
There’s nothing like unconditional love in romantic relationships. I say this because what might be a deal breaker to me, might be what someone else terms ‘normal thing’. Some would even argue, and tell you that‘You don’t know what other’s are sacrificing in their relationships’. They do this because there’s something they’re attached to, in that relationship and they feel it’s worth every other thing. For some, it could be the opportunity to love unhealthily. For some, it could be the opportunity to obsess over another person. Either way, there’s always a reason, whether it seems logical or illogical to others, as to why they’re with who they are.
From the stance of someone who’s experienced love, and heard so many stories, love is subjective to every individual. A person might fall in love with a particular trait of yours, and adore it. Then, you meet someone else, and discover that that’s his or her least source of attraction to you. The idea of love varies from person to person, and so it is conditional. It doesn’t matter if the conditions are healthy or not.
Choosing to be in a romantic relationship with someone, means you have seen their flaws, and you’re open to living with them. You’ve experienced life with them, and have discovered that the cost of peace, joy or whatever you feel around them, supercedes the distress caused by their flaws. The only time love isn’t conditional, is in familial relationships, of which, there are still exceptions. Love is such a beautiful feeling, and it’s a pity that some people have experienced it with the wrong persons, leading to their disinterest.
Thanks for reading.
Image above was taken by me.
