There was once a discourse, on social media, on how people like to glorify hardship. On a particular post, people talked about how they were judged for simply satisfying their wants or even outsourcing a task they didn’t feel like doing. Their hurt was valid because most times you find people imposing their beliefs on others, and even trolling them for doing something that made them happy, forgetting that the definition of happiness is different for every individual.
Happiness is a decision. If you decide that your happiness is tied to other people, it would be so. You’d only be happy when other people choose to make you happy. If you decide to only be happy, when money is involved, that works also. You’d only be happy when money is available. As someone who has promised herself to be happy everytime she gets the opportunity, availability of money or not, I’ve come to realize that being happy, no matter what influences it, is indirectly tied to the decision to be happy.
What I mean by the above statement, is that if you constantly tell yourself ‘I would be happy if this person does this for me’, you’re subconsciously wiring your mind to believe that happiness comes from that action. So, when the person eventually performs that action, there’s no way you aren’t going to be happy, even if it’s only for a short while.
The same goes for tying your happiness to what money can get. If you make yourself believe that having a certain thing, would make you happy, you’d definitely be happy when you get that thing. The emotion might fizzle out almost immediately, but what matters is that you were happy while it lasted. If I could buy happiness from the market, I’d do so without hesitation.
There are times where we face emotions we would have loved to escape from, as a result of life happenings around us. There are so many exhausting moments everyone has had to pass through. So, if the happy emotions are refusing to come to you at a particular time, through the little things you have, why not use what you have to get what you want? Trust me, If I’ve got the money to get away from a situation that’s been stressing me out, for a brief moment, I’m definitely buying whatever brings happiness at that moment.
There’s never been a moment I wished I could get happiness from the market, because I’ve learnt to derive happiness from whatever I have around me. There’s no strength in continuously dwelling on unfortunate experiences, and allowing your moods be sour all the time. Sometimes, all you need is to look around you, find a reason to be grateful, and happy with what you have. However, if I get a chance to purchase my happiness, I’d do so. And if not, I’d also be happy with the little things I have. Being happy most of the time will forever top being sad 90% of the time.
Thanks for reading.
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