๐ฒ ๐ฃ๐๐๐๐ฆ ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ ๐ฆ๐๐ข๐จ๐๐ ๐๐๐ฉ๐ ๐๐๐๐ข๐ฅ๐ ๐ช๐๐๐๐๐ก๐ AS A MAN
Oftentimes, I see brothers running helter skelter to the gyms to exercise and get six (6) packs. They want to stay fit and attractive. They want to stay healthy and strong. I see your struggles and the work you all put into this. I applaud you.
As you are busy expending energy and resources on your physique, other aspects of your life should not be left to suffer. You should learn how to balance things and live a balanced life. Let's delve into the six packs you actually need to make your marriage a blissful one.
1. ๐ ๐ฆ๐ ๐ข๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐ก๐ ๐ฆ๐ข๐๐๐ ๐ฅ๐๐๐๐ง๐๐ข๐ก๐ฆ๐๐๐ฃ ๐ช๐๐ง๐ ๐๐ข๐
I know you go to church, in fact, you were born in the church. It's so good to see you in church every time bro, but it's better for you to know the LORD of the church and for us to see the church in you.
At the point of salvation, everyone begins a Walk With God. However, not many people continue in that walk. It's unfortunate!
If you want to enjoy a blissful and beautiful marriage, you can't do without God! You need Him every step of the way. Right from the point of making a decision on who to marry to the point you say farewell to this world. Even while planning for the wedding ceremony, you need Him. You need Him at the wedding ceremony so that when the wine gets exhausted, He can turn water to wine!
You need Him in the marriage. "A three-fold cord is not easily broken." - Ecclesiastes 4:12. God is the third cord. He should be the Head of your home, the unseen Guest at every meal, and the silent Listener to every conversation. He should be present with you at all times.
You need Him to hold you by the hands and teach you how to love His daughter, whom He gave to you as a wife. You need Him to teach you how to handle a lot of situations that will threaten to break your home!
Trust me, you can't do without God in your home!โ๐พโ๐พ
2. ๐ ๐๐ข๐ข๐ ๐๐ก๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ง ๐ฆ๐ข๐จ๐ฅ๐๐(๐ฆ) ๐ข๐ ๐๐ก๐๐ข๐ ๐
Adam had a job first, before God gave him Eve as his wife. You, my brother, should ensure that you are financially buoyant enough to feed two mouths conveniently before taking another man's daughter to the altar.
Love is good, but it won't put food on your table. Neither will it pay your bills.
Don't wait for the government to give you a job, employ yourself. There's no one God created empty! We all have treasures deposited in us! Discovery yours and put them to you. Learn and acquire skills that can fetch you good money.
I strongly advise having multiple streams of income.
Love is sweet, but when money enters, it becomes SWEETER! ๐๐
3. ๐๐๐ฉ๐ ๐๐ข๐ข๐ ๐๐ข๐ ๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐ก๐ ๐ฆ๐๐๐๐๐ฆ
You are marrying a wife, not a slave sir! Have you ever paused to wonder why some women look old even when they are not yet 40 years old?
The answer is not far-fetched. Their husbands used them roughly. The poor woman will cook, sweep, wash clothes, wash the dishes, mop the entire house, carry pregnancies, bath the babies, back the babies, change the diapers and everything. All the work in the house are left for just one person. And in the night, oga will still come and she must 'do the do.'
Bros, don't commit murder o. Learn simple home making skills. ๐๐
โ Learn how to cook good food. Some men cannot even boil water. Eeeeeeeeiii God! And if you ask them to cook, it's going to be either a burnt offering or a dead sacrifice!๐
โ Flush the toilet after use. Or are you afraid to discard what your body discarded? You dey fear your own sh.t?๐คท
โ Learn how to do the dishes. You pile plates up in the sink and wonder why cockroaches and rats have made your house their headquarters?๐คฆ Stopeeet!
โ Learn how to wash clothes. There will be times that you need to wash clothes, you wouldn't want to mess everything up.
4. ๐๐๐๐ฅ๐ก ๐๐๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ฆ๐๐ซ
You acquire knowledge by reading, observation and practicals. Listen, I mentioned reading first. That's the first step to knowledge acquisition. For the practical aspect, wait till your wedding night.
Learn about the anatomy of the man's body in general and the penis in particular. Read about what to eat to give you good erection and to help boost your sperm count.
Read about how to treat your wife in bed. Some men suck in terms of s.e.x. They are very selfish and all they want is to enjoy s.e.x, without minding if their wives enjoy it too. Whereas, the enjoyment is meant to be mutual.
5. ๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ข๐ ๐๐ก๐ ๐ฆ๐ง๐จ๐๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐๐๐
Marriage is not for babies. It's for mature minds. You need to deliberately work on yourself before saying 'I DO!'
You need to know what you want and what you don't want. You need to have a mindset revamp about many issues that usually cause conflicts in marriages.
Take good care of yourself. Women love men who:
โ know how to take good care of themselves,
โ know what clothes and shoes fit them
โ know what hairstyles fit them
โ know what body sprays smell nice on them
โ have great fashion sense
โ have good taste
โ take good care of their teeth, armpits etc
โ are neat in general!
Read godly books on courtship, relationships and marriages. Have you heard that my book, titled: Building Emotional Intimacy: The Importance of Discussing Sex During Courtship is out? It's available on pre-order now. Grab a copy and read!
6. ๐๐๐๐ฅ๐ก ๐๐ข๐ช ๐ง๐ข ๐๐๐ฉ๐ ๐ช๐๐ง๐ ๐ ๐ช๐ข๐ ๐๐ก
Women are special creatures. Sometimes, they say "no" when they actually mean "yes." At other times, they say "yes" while in actual fact, they mean "no."
Also, there are times that their "yes" will be yes and the "no" will be no. Study how to handle her when she's having a mood swing.
You need to read books on how a woman reasons, and behaves. Read books on the anatomy of the woman's body too.
Women love it when you give them money. No matter how much she makes, whatever you give her is worth more!
They also love men who give them helping hands in the house. Don't just be lazing around the house and expect her to slave off herself for you.
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