The modern way of motivational crap and Fake Positivity drenched people, Books, videos and articles doling out “Stay Happy, Stay Positive” Bullshit has really screwed the way we seek and perceive happiness.
There are two ways to be happy :
Stay Blindly positive, smile stupidly without any reason to fake it till you make it and pretend that you’re happy under the influence of alcohol, tobacco, drugs, money, power, sex and ignorance
Start working on changing yourself, your mind and thought process to withstand a rough and evil world outside with internal piece of mind that will keep you happy from inside out
If you wish to choose the second path, read on
If you are ready to really work hard for eternal happiness, If you want to be really happy forever :
The first and foremost thing that you need to realize is that happiness is a state of mind and not a result of your outer world
All materialistic things and external sources of joy in the world can make you Happy, but it wouldn’t last too long unless you have a strong control over your mind and thoughts
And, How do you control your thoughts and mind ?
Live a minimalistic life - Expensive gadgets, fancy restaurants and branded clothes are a Psychological trap created by companies to fool you.
They don’t give you happiness, They just fool you into believing that you are happy
Keep yourself Busy - The more time you spend on social media or any unproductive activity, the more difficult it would be for your mind to get eternal happiness.
Internet gives instant gratification. Productive work will give you inner happiness
Explore new things : Most people do not know what work they like, what things they are good at and what would make their life better tomorrow. Because they never try new things.
Doing new things that you haven’t done before can be life changing.
It can be Coding, writing, Public Speaking, Cooking, baking, teaching, dancing, playing a new sport or practicing yoga and keeping your body and mind fit is something.
Go beyond your regular and busy life and make time for trying new things.
Do not Expect anything from anyone : Expectation is the mother of misery, the moment you detach yourself from expecting people - to like you, respect you, love you, return your favors, Be helpful to you because you were helpful to them, that moment would be the dawn of actual happiness of your life.
A goat cannot expect a tiger to not eat her because she’s a vegetarian, similarly, you cannot expect the world to be good to you, if you are good to others
Don’t expect anything from anyone and you’ll be happy from inside
If you keep on trying to be happy, you’ll never be happy for too long
But if you are willing to change yourself from inside, you’ll never be dependent on your external conditions to be happy
