Yea, Saturdays are for weddings! The typical Nigerian wedding is characterized by great preparation and anticipation. You sure dont want to imagine the mental, physical and psychological stress involved therein. Interestingly, this isnt just for the parties directly involved, the invitees as well. I would want to annotate with a vivid example description rocess involved thus;
The man in question looks for a significant spot to propose to his lady. He buys a high quality diamond ring- the social media,friends and foes would definitely have a glimpse of what the ring looks like on her fingers, how expensive and how scintillating the ring is. This obviously, must have caused a fortune. Bear in mind that the engagement ring is distinct from the wedding ring, which should certainly be more expensive.
The environment for the proposal is also an important issue. The man cannot afford to propose in a dirty, unkempt, or untidy area. A lovely beach, a cool relaxation spot, a cinema, a classy hotel, a lovely garden should do the trick.The piblic must see that the proposal is swanky and deluxe In all entirety.
The introduction is not a private affair these days. Here, the parents of both parties meet and discuss in detail the wedding proper and requirements for the bride price. There is almost no difference between this and the traditional marriage. Various delicacies of food are prepared, the bride and the goom make dresses of same patterns for the grand occasion, likewise the family members.
The tradtional marriage is also on the high side. A huge celebration, more elaborate than the introduction. More persons are invited and the usual expenditure on expensive materials, food, drinks, hall rentage, cake, requirements for payment of the bride price, a common fabric to be sewn by family and friends ppopularly known as "asoebi" is purchased, definitely at a high monetary value .The list is inexhaustible.So much to make a wedding "talk of the the country".
Here comes the chart buster, the climax, the real deal! The church wedding with a grander, more flamboyant and ostentatious reception. This of course is twice or thrice the expenditure of the previous ceremonies. Some persons go as far as obtaining loans from the banks or micro finance banks.
My opinion is not hinged on the fact that monies should not be spent on such occasions , NO! If you have the required cash to make a posh or showy wedding , then let me be your guest. It is a celebration done once in a lifetime so i can readily relate. However, my focal point is the undue wholistic concentration on the celebrations alone, leaving the integral part out, which is life after the wedding party- marriage life.
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Wait a minute! After all the monies, time, energies expended on the foregoing, what next? THE REAL WEDDING PARTY BEGINS....
Yea,the impact of whatever series of parties that might have occurred erstwhile will begin to play out in the marriage. The real wedding party is the ability to look into your wife/husband's eyes after five, ten, twenty, thirty .....years and say ," I am glad i married you" .This is not to imply that there would not be any challenge, difficulties or hurdles to cross in the marriage.That will be living comfortably in a fool 's paradise and building castles in the air.
The ability to know and prepare yourself for whatever storm you might face and avoid making a hurricane out of such storms is very instructive. Resolving not to make such storms a stumbling block to your marital bliss is paramount. No two individuals are the same, we all have our likes and dislikes.The uniting of two flesh to become one is the sanctity and mystery in which marriage is embedded. A lot of maturity and sacrifice is expected from both parties.There is a dire need to forego one 's likeness for a particular thing in order to satisfy the other party, if in the long run it will be in the best interest of peace.
The real wedding party is waking up knowing that the interest of your partner is your utmost concern, praying incessantly for his/her intention.The real wedding party is sleeping with the air-conditioner switched off for the first time in your life and the rest of your life because your partner is allergic to cold. Sharing in each other's pain, gain, trials and triumph is the real MVP...lol 👍👍
Love is pure, divine, sublime, not resentful, sacrificial and unconditional. The focus hence, should not be on the transient nature of the series of parties you will celebrate with friends, in order to show off, letting the world know how rich and influential you are. The real wedding party is a party for two, just the two of you. No intruder, no third party. It is not ephemeral or episodic. It is a party that involves the eternal unity of two souls bound in love- inseperable and unbreakable.
Make yours a wedding party for two, Be each other 's host and guest, savouring the bitter-sweet experience of conjugal bliss.
