There are different types of neighbors, there are the ones that are very loud - these set of neighbors like to play loud songs that only them enjoy and when they talk, in some cases, they are sweet to converse with but in most cases, they aren't sweet to converse with. Another set of neighbors is the type that live in solitude. They prefer to be lonely than to converse with their follow neighbor. The only thing that could make both neighbors talk is when they are exchanging pleasantries. Then, we have my neighbor, a bitter-sweet person that knows how to seek troubles and be nice at times.
We are three persons sharing a flat - two ladies and me. The eldest among us is a single woman that is probably above her 40s and close to her 50s. I don't actually know how old she is (the number is a guess) but she is old. Also, she is actually the first tenant before i and the other lady came to the house.
Based on her age and her being an old tenant, she always demands respect from the other two neighbors, most especially from me. I do give her the respect she deserve, but one thing with her is that, she always overdo it. Her speech tone is always filled with hostility, as if she's making a point that she is above me. When talking to me, its as if she's talking to a 2 year old, but then, though I really hate it, I didn't want to think much of it. I just began to avoid her totally. One day, i tried to talk to her about it, but she began to raise her voice at me, which made me begin to avoid her totally.
No offence, but i have noticed that most women always wants a man be under them and worship them while they order him around.
What's worst is that when people come to visit me, she begins to get jealous. One day, she reported me to the landlord because i had a visitor. In my mind i'm like - "what the hell is wrong with this woman." When the landlord called me to talk about it, He told me to pay no mind to her. He went further to tell me that she's prolly interested in me because she is always interested in young guys. I've seen countless times when a young guy (my neighbor from the other flat) visits her. When he visits, i do hear funny sounds, but then, its none of my business.
When my landlord told me this, I was really surprised, but then, I was not ready to stop receiving visitors because it made somebody else uncomfortable. By the way, i'm the tenant that pays the highest rent there, and i make the major decisions of the house.
We continued to live in peace, but troubles kept on coming left and right. She began to gossip with her friends about me. Sometimes, she even tell other people ill things about me, but then, no matter what she said, I remained calm even when people come and tell me.
The issues persisted to a point where I stopped greeting her and talking. From my observations, she's an attention seeking type, so, when i stopped giving her that little attention, it made her very furious. She began to tell people worst things about me but welp, i didnt care at all. There was a time when i went to get a hair cut, and I saw her in the same shop after i was about done with my haircut. Even as we were having issues, i paid for her haircut. You need to see the smile on her face that day. I did that purposely, not to settle things, but to make her look stupid in the presence of the people she talked trash about me to.
One day, something happened and our landlady came down to our flat to settle the issue. I travelled, and she locked me out. This was not the first time she did this, so, this time around, i decided to call on my landlady and my second neighbor.
After hearing from the woman, my second neighbor jumped into the conversation as if she has been waiting for the opportunity. That day, my second neighbor said every wrong single thing that the woman has been doing to her. I was shocked. I thought i was the only one that was affected by the negative attitude of this woman, not knowing that my second neighbor was also affected.
Welp, long story short, after the intervention of my landlady, we still did not settle the problems because she continued the ill things she does.
One day, I called both of my neighbors for a talk. My people have an adage that goes like this - "An adult will not be at home while the goat gives birth while being tied to a rope." This means that an adult should not be at home and let an abominable thing happen.
Moreover, i am a man between two women, so, i needed to take action.
I talked to both of them, and I settled every single issues we were having. I also pointed out the importance of accommodating each others behaviors. After a long time of lecturing two adults, the issues was settled. Currently, I am talking terms with her, and also, I try my best to accommodate her. She has stopped talking to me with hostility, but she has not stopped playing loud songs that sounds like funeral songs. All the same, i have to accommodate her.
Thank you for reading.
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