In relationships, especially close ones like between couples or families, the emotions can be scattered everywhere if the intelligence and self-awareness are not learned and mastered to a point.

It reminds me of an incident that happened with a friend, and along the line, he said in his words

"This is why I do not like telling you your wrongs, and I said, I acknowledge my wrongs but one things you lack is emotional intelligence, in a bid to tell me my fault, you end up hurting me more with your words and you expect me to sit and listen to what you have to say about what I did, nah, I won't be listening to what I did wrong even though I have realized and acknowledged it, instead I would be playing and replaying what you said to me in a bid to point out my wrongs. Now, many people in a bid to be open-minded, "This is who I am, I pour out my mind, the way and how I feel" become too sharp-tongued and never read the room to know when, and when not to say a thing, how, and how not to say a thing.

This person could obviously not understand why I would tell me he lacks emotional intelligence even when he was trying to show me my wrongs.

I hope we understand better