How do you feel when complimented? Do you kindly reply and say thank you?Or do you just give a smiling face?Or you overlook the compliment and give a smirked face or do you feel been on top of the world that's ones shoulder hanging so high?
Well some people can just simply accept compliments, a lot can’t, and downplaying compliments is more rampant than we think.
When I refer to downplaying of compliments, I don’t mean people outrightly attacking the person giving the compliment or rejecting it. In this aspect,am speaking to the set of people who feel they are not deserving of compliments, the people who feels easily overwhelmed when complimented and the people who hate being in that spotlight.
Sometimes understating compliments otherwise also known as compliment avoidance is done without one realizing they are doing something wrong, to peoples it’s just a spontaneous feedback to praise they feel they do not deserve it or something important.
For a period of times,I founds it quite difficult in accepting ones compliment because sometimes I do feels embarrassed maybe because of how the compliment comes,some can be in form of roasting and that's very bad....in the name of complimenting someone.
Sometimes I will just laugh over it but meanwhile am pained to neck about that.
Yes, some compliments can put you in an awkward position and your reflexive response can be to either counter them or respond in a certain way that shifts the spotlight from you.
For someone who compliments people a lot and makes people smile, it was so weird to not know how to receive compliments. For the longest time, I had no idea that I sucked at receiving compliments until my friend pointed it out to me.
To me, it was normal to sidestepped compliments thrown at me, but to the other persons, it felt like I weren't appreciative.
You could compliment me for looking nice and pretty, instead of accepting this beautiful compliment graciously like the queen that I am, I’d laugh like I was in a comedy show😂
One funny fact about me is that I always laugh my way out of the uneasy situations.
I figured the reason for the constant compliment deflection was born out of me not believing in myself. It was a way to hide my self doubt and my dislikes of being in the center stage. I was okay with me being the supporting character and not the main character, so as when outstanding qualities were found in me and is also been appreciated, I always ran away.
A lot of People don’t know that they downplay compliments more often than they think they do.
For example, being complimented about a job you did so well, rather than accepting the compliment and be proud of your achievement, you blame luck, you say about your mistakes or you change the subject matter....so funny shaa
No matter how modest, shy, or insecure we are, it’s okay to accept compliments, allow them to sink in, let them immerse and feel good about them without feeling inelegant.
Yes, We can recognize ourselves better than others and sometimes we can be hard on ourselves,but it’s fine to be happy about a compliment. Don’t shrugs it off, don’t over react too much as well, just give it a smiling face and keep going.
I’m on a journey to accepting every compliment with my full mind not minding how it present it's self or the interior motive behind that and just to be happy about it.
Enough of the self reproach even the ones that are strongest of us needs a break for that.
What about you reading this post, do you like compliments? How do you receive them? I’ll love to read your thoughts in the comment section.
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