As a spouse, you can stay with your partner for as long as you want, but at one point. You become trash nor unsatisfactory. he/she will notice all the incorrect things you were do. More often, he/she will blame you (though she might not say it directly) but he/she'll always feel you are the wrong one on that relationship.
As a parent, you may stay with your child for as long as you want. Take good care of him/her. Do everything for your child. Treat him/her very good. Buy him/her anything or spoil him/her in all kind of ways. At one point, he/she will blame you for whatever incorrect things happening in his/her life. Can even blame you for all the things that went wrong in their life regardless of you doing everything for him/her or trying your level best to being the best parent.
As an employer, you can create as many opportunities to employ people. You can create jobs to boost, the economy, uplift people, change people's lives, be resourceful to the community, feed families. At one point, you'll be greatly blamed by the very same employee who greatly depends on you financially & his/her family included. The very same employee whom you have employed. That employee will think ill of you, blame you for being greedy and not raising his/her salary/wage while giving him more work. He/she will feel entitled to assume that you are at the level of success you are at because of him/her. The very same employee who was desperate for employment will wish for your downfall on a daily basis. And he/she can do everything in her power to ensure that you go down (even if it means closing down the very same business that employs him/her. >And this is one of the reasons why it is possible for people to destroy the resources of the company that pays their salaries; perhaps burn the building down<)
As a teacher, your student might do unto you what the abovementioned people have done unto those mentioned above: eg. blame you for failing, blame you for hating a subject, blame you even for their life including why they did not get a job because of being uneducated because of u.
Some will blame circumstances*
WHY DO PEOPLE DO ALL THESE THINGS?
Because we are people. We are human beings.
We are wired to behave this way. Its human nature and it is difficult to oppose the nature. (but each individual has a choice to make.)
LESSON:
Learn to understand people. Learn to learn about people. Be inquisitive about people. Ask yourself why they do what they do. Do not just jump into thinking that they are wrong by doing what they do, but find understanding of why they behave in such a way (...of which sometimes you'll never find an answer. And if you don't; don't worry, its not a train-smash> sometimes you don't need to get the answer. The only thing you need is to understand that they behave the way they behave and they will behave like that because humans were designed to behave like that.) its more like questioning and getting frustrated as to why a car uses fuel to move instead of water.* Duh! it was designed to be like that. The very same understanding you have towards a car finishing fuel after driving for some kilometers or using petrol instead of water is the same understanding you must bring to your attention each time people behave the way they do. Understand that they will and they must. Period! The best thing you can do for yourself is to be ready and expect those behaviors so that you will not be surprised and respond ineffective. WHY DO YOU THINK A CERTAIN % OF UNCLES BEHAVE THE WAY THEY BEHAVE? AND WHY DO YOU THINK A CERTAIN % OF MOTHERS BEHAVE THE WAY THEY BEHAVE? NOT TO MENTION AUNTIES :-) DO YOU THINK THEIR SIMILARITIES IN ONE ARE A COINCIDENCE?
99% of people do not want to take responsibility. Its even worse with accountability. As a result they resort into blaming others when things don't go their way or as anticipated. Someone can say they like surprises & someone can say the don't like surprises. WHICH ONE BETWEEN THE TWO WILL BE TELLING THE TRUTH? ....okay=I got you thinking for a while. At least I've managed to exercise your brain bcoz I saw it was getting lazy. :-) Keep thinking. Its good for your health. whatever answer you have on your mind is fine. You are correct but only in your thinking. Anyway, your answer is very wrong. Never mind, I will tell you which one is correct and which one is lying.
Allow me to proceed with this long effective post:
Don't always get mad and frustrated at things people do because one of the biggest reasons why they do what they do is because they are people. They might blame you, betray you, fool you, gossip about you, assume you haven't done your part, doubt you, reject you accuse you, criticize you or etc you :-) .
I researched about people and their behavior and synchronized my findings with reality and the daily life. This is what I learnt people will do to me:
Nonetheless, you would've done yourself a huge favor if you do just stop blaming people for the things they do to you & everything happening in your life and understand that your happiness is your responsibility. Your success is your responsibility. Its not people & circumstances that make you unhappy. Your response towards what happens to you that writes the next chapter of your life story. Choose how you would like your life to be interpreted. Let it not be negative interpretation though.
*Don't forget to stay positive!
