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So last month, I had some issues ( financially and otherwise ) that was disturbing me, and to be honest I was really disturbed and stressed. Work , personal activities, school , family , and lack of funds etc. So one day, one of my friend ( a lady ) chatted me up, she was so disturbed, she requested for a call, I accepted. So she started explaining things, listing her problems and challenges and how she needed help to solve the numerous problems, and funny enough, about two of her challenges was the same challenge that I was facing and still trying to solve, when she mentioned it, I started laughing and she asked what I was laughing, I couldn't explain, I told her not to worry that it is well.
After all the explanations , I told her to just relax her mind then as if there is no challenge or any problem at all. She asked me how, I told her that there will always be problems to solve that she should just dust herself, step out and continue with her business and act as if there is no problem, then try to solve the ones that she can, one by one and plan the solve the remaining , that with time everything will fall back to place. So was angry and told me she didn't need any advice and that it was financial assistance that she needed. I openly told her I can't assist her financially at the moment, that even if I had the tone of the money she was mentioning, that I also have some problems to solve with it and some similar issues too. The looks on her face said everything that she was not happy, but I had to tell her the truth. She has a problem and I have same too, so I would consider myself first before seeing how to help her. But after few weeks , I think last week , she met me somewhere again and told me that , that was the best advice she had that time. I smiled, I told her that problems will always come , but you can only solve one at a time.
I now sat her down and explain why I couldn't assist her that time. And she smiled and said she's sorry for being too emotional. I totally understood.
The truth is at times people forget that we have problems to solve too and they expect you to leave you own and assist them anytime they come knocking, forgetting that , if you are not okay that you may not even be able to safe them.
One of my boss once told me, ," you must be safe to safe others" and that's totally true. To be able to safe others you must first safe yourself.
Just like the picture on this post, we carried out a medical community service to others in a particular community, I also had to tell the nurse to check and test me too.
