The issue you're touching on I believe is best described as "principles vs. preference". A person who has a political affiliation AND has firm principles will call out their own side when those principles are broken, whereas someone who operates on "preference" will tend to rationalize or ignore any such violation of principles if it's done by their own team. There seem to be vanishingly few of the former, and a growing majority of the latter in both big US parties. Bush or Trump drone strikes in non-combat situations are bad, but Obama's were no big deal. Obama's overspending was bad, but Bush or Trump's overspending is 'necessary' or 'stimulating the economy'.

For some time now I've embraced the unfortunate reality that most people are NOT rational most of the time, and that those such as myself who at least ATTEMPT to be rational more often will never fit in. The best solutions I've come up with to cope with this so far are to either 1) start my own space colony and get some distance from the majority, or 2) using this understanding to manipulate the masses to help build my empire. So I'll either be the first cartoonist in space, or the first to be a (benevolent?...) overlord. 😈