Despite how strong I think I am, I've been hurt many times because of rejection. But when I put my grief to a pause for a while and weigh the odds, I begin to see the golden opportunity ahead of me.. this is how I quickly put my mind off from any situation that has gotten me rejected.. Being rejected hurts a lot, quite true but I believe when we try harder or try something else, we smile at last.
Just like I said earlier, I've been hurt a thousand times but the one rejection that I'll never forget happened last year..
After I passed out from my National Youth Service program in the year 2020.. It seemed like I had no concrete plans for my self, was still having that feeling that I had enough money saved up from my monthly allowance and so never bothered to apply for jobs immediately. I continued like this for months until my money was almost finished..It was then it dawned on me that I needed to get a job.
I applied for several positions in the private organization where I served.. I was never invited for any interview not to talk of getting the job.. Some persons I met even told me that it won't be possible for me to get employed because I had just my bachelor's degree.. At this point I got frustrated but I kept applying regardless of all the discouraging comments I got.. Until sometime last year, I was finally called for an interview for the position of a health record assistant at the private hospital of the school.. I was very grateful to God that at least I was invited for an interview that also involved a good sum of money as salary at least for a start.
I contacted a few persons that I know to tell them the good news and some hints were given to me on the likely questions that would be asked via the interview.. I prepared for this interview like my whole life depended on it and after the preparations, the day of the interview finally came. It was successful I made 85/100!馃槃
You might be wondering how I knew my score?
On the day of the interview, I met my colleague who happened to be an ex-corper during our youth service years. She was one of the interviewers and was fully representing her dad who happened to be the chief medical director of the private hospital.. So after a week of the interview, I reached out to her and asked her about my performance and she highly commended me for being so smart and confident with all the questions that I was being asked on the day of the interview.. She told me my score.. Yea! that was how I knew my score She also gave me the assurance that I would get the job because of how well I performed and I was patiently waiting for the day I'll get an email message on my new job.. But it turned out that I was rejected馃様
I made two friends on the day of the interview.. Guess what? They got the job馃檪
And this drew my mind back to what they told me that very day. They said that the organization is tribalistic.. "No matter how well a person does in the interview, as long the person is not from their land, the person can never get the job except is by God's grace or through the help of someone influential" These were their words to me and it made sense after all. My friends got the job probably because they did well in the interview and most probably because they are children of the soil.. And as for me I got rejected from being employed in that hospital because I am not a son of the soil and I didn't also have anyone influential to help me out ..馃様
I was so hurt during this period.. I would have gotten the job but for some tribalism parole I got rejected.. And as for my colleague that I met at the interview, she bluntly told me that the issue was beyond her powers.. I was very helpless!
I was invited for another interview sometime mid year and same thing happened.. I was very hurt again and after a while, I had to pause my grief to meditate on the issue Working for someone might not be my calling!.. I thought
I can't continue like this.. I have to look elsewhere and this has to be something I'd do comfortably on my own and at my own pace.. Learning a digital skill came to mind.
So I started and I'm still a work in progress via the digital skill learning.. And to be honest with you reader, I have been taking it one day at a time and it's been amazing making this decision. I've been at peace with myself for taking this bold step and I hope it pays off soon.. I must blow on my own one day even without having to work for anyone I believe!
When I look at how far I've come and how I've improved so well in life all I can say to that very organization (name withheld) is...
Thank you for rejecting me!馃ゲ
This is my entry to the week33edition01 of the hivelearners contest titled Rejection Feel free to participate!
