This text has moved me a lot, @tarazkp! Especially that last paragraph. Generally, in some cultures, a father's feelings are belittled when he takes on his role. How wrong they are! Fathers can feel the same love, concern as a mother. As you've said, parenting is a full-time job that doesn't come with instructions, where you don't get a vacation, and where the only reward you expect is the well-being of your child. Although I am not a mother, I agree that all responsible parenthood comes from the desire to be a mom or dad. Being a father should not be seen as an investment in the future, or bringing a child into the world to save a relationship and most especially, you should not have them because society says so. That picture where Smallsteps takes your finger is really a beauty: it's a summary of everything you say here. A child is a force, but also someone who needs you. Hugs, @tarazkp!