At times, when a student has reported being bullied by someone at school, a teacher might tell that student to pity the bully more than they pity themselves due to the fact that the bully may be going through an especially difficult time at home, or may have other traumatic issues they are trying to deal with.
But I don't feel that this is particularly good advice to give to a bully's victim, because if a victim is taught to pity their violator, then they will always be a victim. And why does the teacher or any other school staff member always just assume that a bully is the only one who may be going through something bad at home? The bully's victim could also be going through some hard experiences as well, but no one seems to think about that.
By advising someone to excuse the criminal behavior (assaults, threats, battery..) of bullies, the educators are totally ignoring the lives and feelings of the other person involved and are just encouraging them to always be the person who gets stepped on. This is exactly why some of those victims end up taking weapons to school and going on a rampage--because they don't feel protected, and because they got fed up with being bullied and people just telling them to grin and bear it.
