in the same boat as you are, too much of my time has been spent helping people on here and while it felt like the right thing to do at the time, i didn't realise how much i was putting my own interests and pursuits aside in the process

too many years were spent on discord either helping people with support or by trying to get people the curation i felt they deserved, and too many years were spent near single-handedly running a community nobody gives a shit about

made the decision recently to take a step back and put my time elsewhere, into things that benefit me but also actually interest me, no more sacrificing my time and health here; turning 30 in a month and the last thing i want to do is grow old on discord or slaving away doing things that purely support others, gotta look out for myself first really, and i haven't been doing that

this place can be so incredibly demanding when you're on the side that helps keep things running, getting caught up in such utter nonsense a year ago was probably the best eye-opener i could've had, but it still took me another year to realise i was putting too much time into something for others

I feel I've dedicated my time, energy, and expertise to onboarding and supporting many Hivers. I believe I've given enough. I've been incredibly open and available, to the point where any member could message me about their problems, even though they had their own onboarders. Imagine if I had invested my time and expertise in something that directly benefited me? As I've said before, I'm not truly altruistic.

really resonated with me