It's easy to sometimes judge a relationship from the outside, but no one exactly knows what's happening behind closed doors. There's one lady I know, she's middle aged and quite an introvert person. Around 2 years back she met this person on-line, they started liking each other. He lives in Korea and the lady in India. They both visited each other's home in this 1-year time and after a year decided to get married. Then around 9 months back she moved to Korea to be with him permanently and yes that was the right thing to do because after all they were married.
She went there and in 6 months' time she came back to India, after that she did not want to go back. Everyone in her family and the ones who knew her started judging her. They thought she was being the fussy one and uncompromising in this relationship. Last week she reached out to me asking if I could talk to her. I am always happy to do that. Because sometimes not talking about your emotions can really eat you up from within.
We spoke and I was baffled from what all she told me, she looks the fussy one but in their relationship, she is not the one to be blamed. After she moved there, the guy almost stopped caring for her. He barely gave her financial support. She was supposed to get enrolled in a Korean language class, after which she could manage a job, but that too did not happen. At first, he tried to pacify her saying he is starting a business so he needs support from her in saving up. But then he would spend luxuriously on his needs but would not do anything for her. Slowly gradually the communication got down to very basics and in the name of housewife all she was doing was only house work all the time. It felt to me like he got married more with a purpose of getting a helper to look after the home.
We all thought he was the nice one and she was the one with all the problems. She is an extremely introvert person and that's why she is not able to express herself clearly. Now he has been calling her saying he will work on things, but the point is will he actually change and will he take good care of her. After all she is the one who is completely alone in a new Country. Sometimes things are not how we perceive from the outside.
Honestly, we spoke but we have not come to any conclusions. It's very difficult to decide if she should go back or not. Let's see what future holds for her.
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