We have to move ahead with time. When my son was on the verge of completing his graduation, all that I had on my mind was that he gets a job. But he had some very different thoughts, he wanted to have his individual start up. I was not comfortable with the idea, because we did not have any business background. My uncle was in this category, he kept doing something or the other in the name of business and never got set in his life. It was my instant thought that my son should not land in this situation.
We would have multiple arguments and discussions. He has a very radical thought process and mine a conventional conditioned thought process. So I was talking from my point of view and he from his. I was still coming to terms with my beliefs and accepting his way but hubby was more worried then me also. Between me and hubby we decided that we let him choose his path and be by his side for any needs. As years progressed his functional medicine work kept progressing. In between he got into activism activities that worried us more but we decided not to leave his hand. A couple of stressful years went by.
Fast forward to current times. He is now well settling in his work and I cannot feel proud enough of him. Last month he received a job offer from one of the biggest corporate in India, they plan to start a new venture into Functional medicine and they want him to join. After all these years of our arguments and disagreements this time he asked us, what he should do, take up this offer or continue with his independent work.
6 to 7 years back I would have told him to take up the offer, but now we decided that he should not and continue with his independent practice. The salary they are offering is exceptional but still we do not want him to take it and continue focusing on growing independently. Times keep changing and every generation has a different thought process and I believe that the previous generation should make an effort to understand the thought process of the new generation.
As a young girl I too had a different vision, but I never got enough support and neither could I be firm like my son but with him I wanted to be flexible and understand his point of view also. I was aware of my conditioning and I wanted to break myself free from it. If I would have been rigid about my thoughts with my son then I would have deprived him of his life experiences and possibly he would have not been a happy person. He made his mistakes and learned from it and grew from it. It was not easy for all 3 of us, but we decided to stand with each other and hold each other's hands. I keep telling him that he will also have these moments with his own children and while he was rigid with us he will not be able to be rigid with them, because change is the only constant thing that is happening.
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