Men and women of all colors can be "doormats", "pigs", overconfident, or have no confidence at all. I do not believe it has anything to do with the color of your skin and to some point it has nothing to do with how you were raised, some people are just asses, plain and simple. I know Preacher's children who turned out to be terrible adults and druggies' children who turned out to be the best kind of person.