In life, we don’t always get the life we’ve always yearned for. However, there are some people who surely get what they want out of life without having to do much. And that doesn’t mean they had it easy, sometimes it’s luck and most times it’s all due to hard work.
Nonetheless, life is about being able to be contented and fulfilled even when you don’t have what you have always desired or be where you’ve always wanted to be. However, most times people who don’t always get things they want, would sometimes want to covet what another person have and start being envious of the other person.
I’ve seen this happen every so often with people…
Especially with loved ones and those closer to us
Whenever I notice this pattern, I find myself having to withdraw from them without having to cause more emotional stress for myself due to their ambiguous favors behaviors.
Whenever I detach from people, it’s at that moment that I do find time to detach, reflect to gain clarity of the type of situation-ship that I have invested my time and energy into. This happens to many people out there, where they find themselves in a relationship that relies solely on them giving all they can without the other person bringing anything to the table.
Such situation ship relationships are bad for our mental health.
Nowadays, many people only want to take from you without having a way to also give back, be it through anything as simple as saying good things you’ve done for them whenever you can’t seem to meet with their expectations. But whenever you can’t seem to meet up and say No, they always see you as a bad person and start painting you bad for it. These type of people only see the one bad things you’ve done when shit hits the fan as all the good you’ve done has overshadowed the other 99 good you’ve done for them.
Right now, I’m trying to reflect and recharge, so I can get myself out of the situationship I’ve sound myself in.
Or make a better choice moving forward
There’s a famous saying that whenever you find yourself in a hole dugged by you, the first step you take is to stop digging. When you stop digging, it is then that you can save your energy to scream for help or find a way to get out of the hole if it’s not too deep.
But if it’s a deep hole, you’ll have to take all the time you need to recharge and find a way out in case there’s no one to help you out.
Get out.
And once you’ve saved energy enough to climb up and now able to get out, you can then find a way to reconnect with people who won’t want you, not only for what you can give them.
Life is all about taking a step back to recharge and then try again. I’ve got some people I would rather not reconnect with again, and some I would want to ignite our fire once more.
But right now, I’m going to stay open to only making connection with people that only matters.
Until next time
